Does your husband act in this way?

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Does your husband do this?
Hi I am 6 weeks post partum, and also have a 4 year old.
He returned to work when I was 3 weeks post partum.
This week I have had an infection in my finger and have had to go to doctor etc, get antibiotics and my usual routine kind of got disrupted a little, I. e 2 days didn't get hoovering.
But still managed others major things looking after the kids, making meals, taking to school.
But on the days when I didn't get as much done, my husband arrived home after work and was annoyed they weren't done and was saying he didn't understand why I am wrecked or tired at the end of the day.
I also bf our son as well as him having a bottle. And I am also 6 weeks post partum. And do all the night feeds.
Does anyone else's husband act in this way, this isn't a one off, it happened the week after he went back to work also.
I just feel it is unfair, to come home and say this after he had been away all day and slept for 6 to 7 hours the night before.

Anyone with similar husbands or had this experience?

Tell him to help out when he sees something that needs to be done or invest in a Eufy Robovac or something to be kind to yourselves with this unnecessary pressure. His behaviour isn’t acceptable in a relationship where you work as a team with good communication.

My response to the husband would be that you just grew and birthed a baby and are still recovering! And now as you have two kids it’s not as easy as it was with your first!
What is he doing to support your recovery? I would not put up with someone treating me with so little care - make sure you take care of yourself! Happy healthy mum means your babies will be taken care of best which is the most important thing! Your husband needs to reassess his priorities and see where he could do more to help you while you recover!
I don’t always get my hoovering done and if my husband commented he would be in big trouble!

I've always worked part time so a lot of the house /kids stuff has fell to me and sometimes it's been too much and I've asked for help and dh has resented being asked to step up.

That's not great in its self but he never complained about the standard of the house amd he was definitely pitching in in the early days.

Likewise ! What’s stopping him from hovering!

My husband has never been like this! Sorry to say, but your husband sounds like a k**b 🙈🤣

Sorry you are dealing with this! I remember 6 weeks postpartum as if it were yesterday. One of the hardest times for me and that was with my husbands support. Cannot imagine how this is for you!

Yup, both of my exes were like this - the reason they are both exes.

He should be coming in and doing the sodding hoovering rather than whinging.

No, and if he did I don't think we'd last long, I'm not very good at feeling things are unjust and my resentment would build.

We wouldn’t still be married if he did.

At that stage post partum I was still being treated like a queen, your husband sounds awful

How dare he! I think you need to leave him with both kids one day so he can see how it is.

Not sure how to vote but no, my husband was not like this and neither were the husbands of my friends. If they made such an ill judged comment once, they certainly wouldn’t do it a second time

There is no way my husband would have done this even if I hadn't had an infection. Yours sounds like a dick to be honest.

Nope. Orher way around. I was frustrated I wasn't managing to get anything 'useful' done. My husband said that he had it wasier going to work and my only job with a young baby was to keep it alive and cared for, and we would figure out the rest when he was at home

Sign this idiot man to a motherhood and biology lesson that does a step by step education of the process. Something like the book/ program on how a foetus grows each week.

And then give him a list of things he is responsible for in the house, in terms of childcare and chores.

fyi to answer your question, my husband does not ever ask my why it isn’t done let alone get annoyed at me. If he thinks a hoovering is needed he does it himself.

Listen to Fair Play by Eve Rodesky (or just check out her website). You should both have equal amounts of free time.