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No love left in me. am I normal?

33 replies

Sab06 · 29/01/2025 22:01

Does anyone ever feel like they have no love left in them?
I feel empty.. I don’t feel love for my partner, for my kids, for my parents, my family! what is seriously wrong with me. It’s a very strange feeling. I lost my empathy too.

For context, I am in my 40s, kids, partner, nice house, nice car, financially fine.

Anyone experienced this?

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Seas164 · 30/01/2025 09:00

Ahhh the rage, another trademark of the perimenopause. What's going on with your HRT? Would it be worth trying again to get that balanced?

Sorry to hear about your aunt.

Imbusytodaysorry · 30/01/2025 09:06

Sab06 · 30/01/2025 08:42

Thank you all for your inputs! I am sorry to read that lots of us are struggling daily but having to put up a brave face and hide away our negative feelings.
It is indeed hard to be a woman, burdened by life, work, family, society in general and we are still expected to look good, dress well…

I have chronic depression but this emptiness is new to me. I have been perimenopause for 2 years now, on an off HRT.

My resentment about life in general has turned into hidden anger.

What prompted me to seek your help, is that yesterday, my auntie passed away and I did not cry, I felt nothing. I told my sisters ‘it is’ sad but I wasn’t ‘sad’. It’s so messed up!

Sorry to hear his .
I think your pot has been at boiling point for a long time and it tipped over .

Seems like you are at a point that you have no more to give. .

Therapy and self care .

Macrodatarefiner · 30/01/2025 09:07

StaxAttacks · 29/01/2025 22:03

Depression? I think an appointment with the gp in order.

Why?

nightmarepickle2025 · 30/01/2025 09:07

Perimenopause

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Sab06 · 30/01/2025 09:50

Seas164 · 30/01/2025 09:00

Ahhh the rage, another trademark of the perimenopause. What's going on with your HRT? Would it be worth trying again to get that balanced?

Sorry to hear about your aunt.

I was on couple of different ones, but ended up putting so much weight on. I need an appointment with a gynaecologist not GP. I need hormonal profiling to get the right HRT for me. I have been so busy always giving to others, that I end up neglecting my health.

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Original poster
Sab06 · 30/01/2025 09:55

Imbusytodaysorry · 30/01/2025 09:06

Sorry to hear his .
I think your pot has been at boiling point for a long time and it tipped over .

Seems like you are at a point that you have no more to give. .

Therapy and self care .

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Thank you! Yes, I think I am spent! Nothing left in me to give. A couple of months ago, I told my partner, I was having a nervous breakdown and I needed to go to hospital. I didn’t because I thought of my kids and didn’t want them to be without a mum for weeks or months.

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Seas164 · 30/01/2025 10:29

Sab06 · 30/01/2025 09:50

I was on couple of different ones, but ended up putting so much weight on. I need an appointment with a gynaecologist not GP. I need hormonal profiling to get the right HRT for me. I have been so busy always giving to others, that I end up neglecting my health.

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I would recommend a private menopause specialist, for sure, if you've got the funds for it.

I have always been lucky with robust mental health but I was also hands in the air telling DP that I was about to make an appointment with the GP because I needed to be put on something as I felt I was losing my mind. Luckily enough a friend recognised this and directed me to a menopause specialist clinic and it was hands down the best money I have ever spent. It possibly saved my life.

weatherissweetenough · 30/01/2025 16:56

Perimenopause causes this - it's like your caring hormones have buggered off/worn out.

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