NC
Been with DP 4 years, will cut a long story short but it’s was horrendous from about 6 months in to October last year. He was awfully abusive (not physical) and ann alcoholic and I starting drinking to try and cope. All the time I was financially supporting us. Absolutely horrendous time. I asked him to leave or to end the relationship so many times but he refused. We own a house together.
October came and we decided enough was enough. He got sober, I stopped drinking. He did everything right and still is to this day. But I am not in love with him anymore. I have told him this but he has some delusion that I will fall in love with him again and refuses to accept the relationship is over. Says he has put in so much effort recently and so much money prior (deposit) that he will not just give up on us because now we have all the makings of great relationship.
On paper we do. But I just can’t bear to be around him. And he will not listen. And recently started to say that I am being abusive by rejecting him, not wanting to be around him and most recently that it’s all clear to him that maybe I’m menopausal so that’s why I have rejected him now! 🤯
Will I ever come round or am I doomed to stay in this loveless relationship?