To be fed up with DH’s constant ‘advice’?

[lovetrashme]

Honestly, I love DH, but I am at the end of my tether with his constant need to ‘advise’ me on things I already know how to do. It’s like he suddenly thinks he’s the expert on everything!

Example: This morning, I was making a cup of tea. I have been making tea for years. He walks in and says, ‘You know, if you put the milk in after the water, it stops the tea from cooling down too quickly.’ NO. REALLY?! Who knew? It’s like he thinks I just fell out of the sky and have never made a cuppa before.

It’s constant. Driving? ‘You might want to change lanes soon.’ Cooking? ‘That pan looks a bit hot.’ Parenting? ‘Maybe he’s crying because he’s tired.’ Oh, is that why babies cry?! What would I do without him?!

I’ve tried pointing it out to him, and he just looks all wounded and says he’s ‘only trying to help.’ But it’s every day, all the time, and it’s making me want to scream. AIBU to tell him to wind his neck in? Or do I just need to accept I’ve married an insufferable know-it-all?

(P.S. Before anyone asks, yes, he does this at work too. His poor colleagues.)

Yes, I have a DP exactly the same. I'm older than him which somehow makes it worse. Like, I survived 10 years before you were even born and somehow managed to cope before we got together, but all of a sudden I'm helpless without you. No mate. 🤣

My husband used to do this so I introduced the You Interfere, You Volunteer rule.

Any attempt to tell me what to do or how to do something or actually butting in eg adding salt to something I'm cooking or turning heat down while I'm stood there stirring the damn pot 🤬 when I hadn't asked for his input resulted in me handing over to him to finish and leaving the room.

Worked a treat.

You could also try asking him why he thinks you don't know what you're doing or need his help.

And his advice isn't even right. Where on earth did he get such a weird idea about the tea and the milk?

Sounds like my mum! I call her the university of *’insert her name