To think a lot of people on here think people only do 9-5 jobs??

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Inspired by seeing people question why an OP and her husband were lazing around the house today and wondering why they aren't at work. Really questioning it and implying they should have a job to go to.

Many many people work shifts, weekends, evenings, nights. I'm typing this from my bed where I've been chilling out and about to go to sleep for a few hours before work tonight.

Seems that some people are not just mind blown by, but totally ignorant to the fact that that not everyone works Monday to Friday office hours

Very true.

It is amazing how many people cannot grasp the idea that many people don't work in offices with set hours, 5 days a week.

I have had jobs where I worked weekend.

I have a part-time office job at the moment but I also freelance so I often work during weekends and/or evenings. I work from home as well most of the time rather than in the office.

I think some people are really conservative and lacking in imagination in their concept of what work is...

Yes, you see it ALL the time on wedding threads where they are thinking of having a weekday wedding and people are insulted at the thought of having to use A/L all because they want to save money!! Book a Saturday they say! I know several people who work Saturdays, in fact I know several people who only work weekends! It’s not a one size fits all! And I say that as someone who works Mon-Fri 8-4:30

DH and I are currently sitting on the sofa because he works early mornings then late afternoon, every weekday, and I don't work atm because DD is only 4 months old!

But before we had the baby I would often work a 5-11 shift or at weekends so would still have the middle of the day free to please ourselves!

Some people can't grasp anything other than their own experience 🤷🏻‍♀️

I’ve never worked 9-5 in an office I’ve done night shift in person and wfh for a company not in the UK so again still a very laye start. The amount of conversations I’ve had over the years in real life about both and how lazy I am is ridiculous.

lots of why are you still asleep, sleeping until the afternoon that’s so lazy, I couldn’t sleep in that late, it must be nice not having to get up until so late. I work the same hours as you do just at a different time it’s not that hard to understand

I get the impression most think that everyone works full time, their partner works full time, both high earners. In an office.
If you’re a SAHM they assume your husband is a high earner.
If they know you are divorcing they think your husband is a high earner.

They think everyone can afford a cleaner or other paid help if a woman needs help.

Anyone noticing a theme?

Some probably work in Asda.

I’ve never worked 9-5 (I’m in my 50s) and my mother still can’t get her head around it. When I was a teen living at home I had a pt job where I got home around 4.30am. She’d be in with her passive aggressive vacuum cleaner without fail by 9am after those shifts. She’ll arrange to come and stay Friday - Monday when I am working 4x12 hour shifts Friday -Monday and takes no notice when I say I’m working and then she’s suprised I’m out. I work really hard but I’m always being told by other people that they couldn’t possibly sit down in the morning by people who will happily sit down at 5.30 and not move until midnight when they will go and lie down.

completely agree, and commented on the thread you're talking about.
It's so weird, it wouldn't even cross my mind to query why someone is in work.
It's like some posters are still stuck in 1955 and everyone gets up and goes to the office for 9am on a Monday and finishes at 5pm on Friday.

People work part time, work shifts, do condensed working, take annual leave, accrue toil, work 'on call' (so have to be available but not actually working), can be on maternity leave, on sick leave, work for themselves, work freelance etc...

Tbh even with my job, which is a traditional office based (except I now mainly wfh), one where the public opening hours are 9-5, my role is so flexible that I could absolutely be working today but take 2 hours off to watch tv or whatever the OP was doing, with no issue at all, I'd just make up the hours later on in the day/week/month.

And even if people don't work for whatever reason, it's very rare that this actually has any relevance to the post. Even if the OP was hitting all the Daily Mail "workshy benefit claimer" tickboxes it's got nothing to do with the question asked (in that case about a row with a husband!), so why the need to even query it?

also agree with @Mooozer, "early birds" are particularly judgey of nightowls as if it's a character defect to not be working by 9am.

Some do, but MN seems to attract the middle class. You can tell by their writing style. The standard of spelling and grammar on here is pretty good.

I have been told I have loads of time on my hands and it’s been insinuated I must be unemployed too 🤣

Retired now, but I worked weekends by choice so I could have 2 weekdays off, when it was quieter for shopping and visiting places of interest.

They also seem to struggle with the idea people might have jobs that it isn't possible to do WFH.

Agree with this.
I have been on and off MN for years, and it's always been middle class centric.

People on here are the ones who hire cleaners, whereas we are the ones who are the cleaners.

DH is a school cleaner, hence the weird hours and I was a waitress and holiday let cleaner before having the baby!

Though to add to my own post, I am a SAHM and will be until DD starts preschool.

We just scrape by, but it's important to us plus importantly we could not afford private nursery even with help.
(Also the nearest nursery is 15 miles away!)

Also driving. I've seen some truly disgusting threads about how emasculated/ unattractive a male non driver is.

Also the amount of laundry and bleaching everyone seems to do.

They say East Anglia is going to be without water in 10 years without it being piped in and yet people still obsessively over use and sneer at anyone who considers consumption and doesn't over wash / pour chemicals on and over everything daily.

There’s quite a few people on here who assume that most other people match their own circumstances. Your example about 9-5 is one of those examples. Only half of UK jobs could be done from home but it’s regularly mooted as a suggestion.

Another I see a lot is “ask the grandparents or friends to help with a childcare issue” because they have help on tap.

Said this years ago on MN....everyone just assumes you work Monday to Friday!

Me and DP had a lazy morning this morning and went out for brunch. We're both on late shifts this week.

I've never worked in an office. I've either worked in catering, nightclubs, pubs, care homes or cleaning. I feel like we must be invisible sometimes.

You are very right, OP.

"Some people can't grasp anything other than their own experience"
I agree with @OctopusSexArm (interesting nickname 😅).

This applies to every topic, though.

My XH worked away for months at a time, no downtime as such. When he was at home on leave for weeks his mother used to incessantly fuss at him to “get a job”. She could not comprehend that he had been working every day for four months and therefore was now getting all his accumulated days off at once.

Yes I'd agree with this.

There is also an assumption that if either if you have a job with extensive travel it is a high earning role and you can just get a nanny.

And that either parent can just 'get a new more flexible job' just like that. Instantly.

One that winds me up is when there are roadworks and people start "they should do it at night". Said person has a fairly self contained office based job and therefore could easily work nights instead.

I guess that's just a level of entitlement that everything has to revolve around 9-5 office work.

From what I can gather the stereotypical mumsnetter does 9-5 but condensed into 4 days.

Their husbands have big important jobs so are working 7-7 6 days a week so can't possibly help with bedtimes

I used to work in a shop 5am till 1pm and when asked what time I finished they would always say "ooh lovely a half day" well no because I've done a full days work already.

Some people really are thick aren't they?