Thriving after divorce - I need your stories

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For various reasons, I have now woken up from the coma I've been walking around in, and I'm getting my ducks in a row so that I can finally leave my husband

Right now, I'm a delightful mix of heartbroken and scared, with a healthy dose of bittnerness, resentment and years of well suppressed rage bubbling to the top. I'm mildly terrified about how life is going to be over the next year or two, and reading in the divorce support fb groups about how horrendous the process is doesn't help. I desperately need some positive thriving after divorce stories, especially if you've got kids and have escaped from a narcissistic, emotionally abusive ex.

I'm in Scotland, so any specific advice from Scottish mumsnetters welcomed. I have a solicitors appointment booked

Purely bumping before it drops off the front page

You divorce but they don't drop out of your life. You keep all the annoying bits of the relationship, time keeping, money, thoughtlessness etc. You have to still talk about "we" when it comes to the kids. And it takes the kids about 2 years to recover.
But, there's a peace, life is simpler, you own everything you look at. You do grow in different ways.

Thank you. I'm hoping for the peace at least - right now I live in a permanent treading on eggshells state

I’m in similar place to you OP and I’m sending you positive energy and strength! I’ve listened to some quite inspiring podcasts on this topic, I could share the links if you like?