Should I let toddler sleep on floor in our room?

[Soontobemumof2kids]

For the last few nights our 2 and half year old has been coming into our room and sleeping on the floor. Neither myself or my husband have even noticed him coming in.
We recently had baby no. 2 (5 weeks ago) and moved house (2 weeks ago) and I’m not sure if these changes have anything to do with this.
I feel we should be taking him back to his own bed but my husband thinks if he’s sleeping we should leave him to sleep on the floor. I woke up for the baby at 1am tonight and noticed him sound asleep with a pillow at that time so it would be a long time to have him sleeping on the floor.
AIBU to think we should be waking him and taking him back to bed every time he does this?

I'd take him back to his own bed, every single time.

Make him a little bed in your room. He's just experienced two huge upheavals. He wants the comfort of being close to you.

I think it's whatever works for you and your family, there are no rules. If toddler is warm and comfortable and you think it is helping them at this time of change then that's great, if you think they should be back in their own bed and you / dad can take them back then do that.

You also have the option to give it a couple of weeks to see what happens before deciding etc

I hope he has a matress and blankets to sleep on.

I put a cot bed mattress in my room when this happened with my toddler. He came in during the night but didn't disturb me that way. Kept to it for a couple of years before outgrowing it when he was about five.

I'm glad you said that because that's exactly what I'd do.

I'd be inclined just to scoop him up into your bed or put his bed in your room. He wants the comfort of being close to you. There's nothing wrong with that and it won't last forever. I do not understand this obsession with making tiny toddlers sleep by themselves in their own rooms.

Aw poor little guy!

His life has been completely changed. I would pick him up and put him in bed with you.

I'd put him to bed in his own room every night but maybe get a little cot bed mattress for the floor of your room and leave a blanket down. That way if he gets up and comes in, he has somewhere to sleep that is safe and you aren't going to accidentally trip or step on him.

I’d make him a little bed in your room so that if he comes in that’s his space. He doesn’t get to wake anyone up and you won’t trip on him, and he can come in and be near and know he’s safe. It’s all so unsettling and he’s still a baby himself really.

No advice but kudos to you moving with a newborn and toddler!

I think the decision is entirely for your own family to make.

We have a 2.5 year old and had a new baby nearly 4 weeks ago and one of those nights, our toddler was really upset and wanted to be in our bed. We trialed it out but was a disastrous night for all as when the baby woke, it up the toddler too and took him forever to go back to sleep. So I’d take him back into his bed if this was the case.

However, if he’s sleeping through the baby waking, I’d make him a little bed on the floor and let him stay there, or move him into your bed if you can’t make a comfortable bed for him.

We made a bed on the floor beside our bed when dc were small. Whoever wanted to could sleep there, sometimes two of them together. Everybody got to sleep. DC found it comforting being beside us. My thoughts were that when they are 16 they won't be sleeping in with us. Your ds has had two major upheaval he needs mum and dad near him.

Another vote for starting in his own bed and having a spare bed on your floor. He possibly needs the sound of your breathing while he learns the new sounds that the house makes, as well as everything else that had changed in his wee lfe.

If everyone is getting a good nights sleep, don’t change anything.

I'd get a little toddler bed for him in your room rather than leave him on the floor but I'm soft haha

I’d get a mattress and bed for your ds on the floor. He's so little and he won’t be little forever. He has had a lot of upheaval and needs the comfort of his family. From his perspective mum and dad always get to sleep together and now the new baby. He will be feeling like the odd one out, left out. Thinking about it logically, why do small children have to sleep alone when adults get to sleep together?

Yep

I would put him back to his room every time now otherwise it will form a habit of him being in your room which will be harder to break and more stressful for you all in the long run and just make sure you get some 1.1 time with just him during the day to play a game or whatever he would like to do whilst baby naps

Firstly, wow - you moved house 3 weeks postpartum and with a toddler!

Back to your question, you surely don't have to wake your toddler before putting him back? Just scoop him up whilst he's still asleep? A mattress on the floor is a good idea too.

Back in his own room whilst there’s been a big change and he’s adjusting
leave him in your room or bed it will become a habit/the norm which will be difficult to break
also he’ll get disturbed with night feeds

Why can't he come in bed with you?

Me, I’d let him stay and either let him in your bed or make one up for him.
He wants to be with you all. And his new room seems strange probably.
He’s still a baby himself really.

We had a cot bed mattress under our bed for this specific purpose. Probably used it until our sc were 8 (4 dc born in 6 years). They are all teens now, they sleep in their own rooms every night :-)

Poor baby, he wants to be close to you. He's had two massive changes in such a short space of time. I'd pick him up and put him in bed with you.

This. He wants to be with you. Let him be with you