To not know how I feel about this

[Shelliebaby]

My children are 7 and 4. Been divorced for 7 months and exh wants to take the kids abroad for a week. They only stay at his house one night per week and they swing from wanting to go to not wanting to go. My daughter says she doesn’t want to be without me for that long. I’m just worried as it’s a long way for her to change her mind. I really want them to go and have a great time though equally

I would ask ex to start having them for full weekends so they are more comfortable being away from you for 2 then 3 nights prior to their holiday.

I have asked he won’t agree to it

Tell him to let you know when he has sorted their passports out and you can discuss it again...

If he’s a good father, I would absolutely encourage it.

A good df wouldn't just parent his dc 1 night a week.....

I would let him take them tbh. If he took it to court he would get permission.

I think from 1 night to a week is much too big a jump for a 4 year old. I would not agree unless there was at least 2 trial runs of 3/4 nights first. I do not think it unreasonable to ask to build up to it.

Does it not also depend on his work patterns. A father who does 4-12 shifts for example it's going to be difficult Not necessarily him being an arse

Would you work a job that meant you could only see your children one night per week?

Or would you make job hunting a priority?

I would be fine with it. Who doesn't love a holiday? They'll have a great time

Often people work these kind of shifts when they are part of a couple to save on childcare. My DD and her husband have done opposite shifts for the last 8 years. Doesn't mean that a few months after splitting someone can quickly get another job. Especially if they work in hospitality