Can’t do it anymore

[OneBrightAzureBiscuit]

Bursting into tears. He’s not coming back and yes it’s me the stupid user who keeps posting about someone who I was with 6 months. I’m drinking I can’t cope, drinking so much. I did everything for him- he was in debt break down and I cleaned his flat washed up he had flies. He tried to stop me seeing my best friend, but he loved me. He loved me so much he wanted us to be each others life. Now he’s blocked me and is gonna move on and find a girl he loves way more than he ever loved me. I’m crying so much and if you want to say I’m lying or be nasty like on other posts I had to delete go ahead. I’m so depressed I just keep replaying when we first met. I’m so broken and crying. I wanna vanish.
he isn’t coming back !!!

I know I said girl, I’m 24 for reference. Hit me with hate it’s fine I’m used to it
i don’t think til people are in this situation they understand they just judge :(

You really need a way to move on from this. Get a big glass of water and go to bed. More alcohol will just make things seem worse

He can't of loved you to behave like that

Thanks to all your comments I’m sorry I’m not an expert on replying but you don’t go un noticed. I’m just shocked how someone can be so loving then go to this. Love to you all, even the mean people xxx

No, he’s going to find a girl he can belittle and abuse.

It’s good if he doesn’t come back. He is a shitbag.

Put the drink down, ring someone IRL.

@OneBrightAzureBiscuit sweetheart have a large glass of water and get some sleep. Men are absolute shits sometimes and unfortunately you found one. You deserve so much better than him. Chin up chick x sending 🙏🫂💐❤️

Some will always respond in a nasty manner, and when you post on a busy (mainly female) forum, it's par for the course.

My advice would be stop drinking, it'll only make you maudlin, be kind to yourself, do you have friends?
If you do, spend time with them, you are young, lots of life just waiting for you to enjoy it.

And though you don't think so, you will eventually meet the man of your dreams, but give it time.

It wasn't real.
When someone loves you, they don't isolate you from friends.
They don't make you feel wretched
He love bombed you, it's sad you fell for it, but you now know better if someone tries it again.
Work on your self worth and self identity, get good with you, and if the right person comes along, they will amplify that, and it will feel right.

Kindly, he didn't love you OP. He used you because, like you said, you did everything for him. Honestly, he sounds like a useless sack of shit to me from your descriptions here and on your other posts. You need to be angry, not sad. Angry at the waste of six months, not at him leaving. That's a good thing! Why do you think he's such a super catch that any other women is going to snatch him up anyway? He's not exactly got a lot going for him. You'll look back on this and be relieved one day.

One day you will look back this as a lucky escape.

You have to block him and be very strict with yourself about not thinking about him. Distract yourself. Eventually it will become and habit and you'll have the time and distance to see this 6 month relationship for what is was - an absolute near miss for you.

Most of us understand. We've all been through break ups and felt heartbroken.

Generally, people here aren't judging you, they're just trying to make you see that, based on the information you've given, this man didn't really love you and you're better off without him.

It's frustrating to us that you can't see how badly he treats you. You just defend him and want him back, when you asked us for advice on your relationship. Don't ask if you don't want the truth and have no intention of making any changes.

I PROMISE that it will get easier, and you can move on. But I suspect this isn't the end. He'll come crawling back, and you'll take him. Until it all goes to shit yet again, and you'll be back here complaining.

Only you can break this cycle.

Hi,

thanks for your comments I know you’re right and I appreciate each and every comment. I know it’s for my good but he was so loving and then past weeks he’s been terrible. Yeah I have friends I’m seeing my mate Friday to let our hair down but it kills- knowing he will replace me like nothing and find someone else. I gave him it all
he put up a status yesterday (blocked him so my sister showed me) saying he has cracked and is alone , however he’s not coming back. No contact. I’m on my second glass of wine and 5 cans. Tryna make sense and get over him.
i keep replaying our first meeting

How can you show yourself the love you felt from him? Try to cut back on the drinking, take yourself on nice dates, try a new hobby, see friends, treat yourself to gifts or at home spa day. When you spend a few weeks consistently building yourself up you'll be ready to move on and won't think of him so much. You have the power to make your life so big and beautiful there's so no room for him anymore.

You won't find sense at the bottom of a glass. Not trying to sound preachy, but getting shit faced isn't going to help, it's going to make you weepy and miserable.
I'd advise getting off here, having a glass of water and something to eat and having an early night.

@FoxtonFoxton no you’re absolutely right but I can’t stand being sober that’s when the agitation and pain starts. At least when I’m drunk the pain is numbed xx
hes a waster isnt he

A massive, useless waster, and absolutely not worth your tears. I promise you, you'll feel much better stopping the drink and working through your feelings properly. Only with a sober, level head will you get to the realisation that he's a fuckwit.

Put the drink down, he is not worth it.

Sounds like the only person he loves is himself. You deserve better than that! It will get easier, but please pour the booze away.

Try to get some sleep. Heartbreak is awful but you will come through it and find someone who really loves you and treats you well x

When you are drunk, you are seeing him through rose coloured specs...put the glass down, read a book, phone a friend, go to bed, stop mooning over someone who cares not a jot about you.

Accept that, get mad not maudlin, and move on with your life, the best way to move on is to be happy.

This. I’m so sorry you are going through it OP. I promise you you will come out the other side and realise what a loser this man is xx

That loving attitude is fake. That's how they hook you in. They can't keep it up. I was with one for nearly a year before I found out he was 7 shades of crazy and controlling. It fucks with your head but you've got to get a grip.

You dodged a bullet here. These guys are like vegan sausages. They look great, smell great but inside they're horrible. They just trick you into thinking they're normal.

Go out Friday. Pull. Get under someone else and over him. Then move on with your life. The real deal is still out there.

@Balloonhearts this! Xxx

And don't you dare take him back either when he comes whinging about what a mistake he made. He doesn't get to drop you then pick you back up a bit further down the line like a fucking bus!

You don’t need him back you need a therapist, to complete the freedom online domestic abuse course and to find an aa group. If you don’t do those things they’ll be another along to replace him before long and he will likely be worse and more dangerous, and you’ll continue to soothe, comfort and distract yourself with alcohol. Break the cycle while you’re young and don’t have children who can be damaged by your choices.