Guess I'm posting here for traffic.
So been married 13 years, together 20, 3 kids 12,10,6. We both work full time.
So I feel things haven't been right for sometime, my husband is lazy does nothing to help around the house or with the kids, doesn't get involved in family life generally, I feel like he's an ornament in the house, never asks any of us hows our day been, takes no interest in me or the kids unless I tell him too. Only helps when I ask and generally is quite mardy about the fact I've asked for help!
So yesterday morning things have come to a head and after a row I told him I'd had enough and that I felt more like his servant than his wife and I told him that I didn't know if I wanted him here anymore.
He was upset by this and told me that he loved me and didn't want to lose me. I just told him I didn't know what I wanted and he left and went to work. I spent most of yesterday switching between feeling upset and cross, cross at the fact he thinks its ok to act this way.
Anyway yesterday evening he arrived home from work as if nothing had happened! The only difference being that he helped clear the dishes after supper and played for a bit with our youngest, something he never normally does!
But now I don't know where to go from here, I'm not sure I can just forget about this, I feel he'll only change for a short period of time and we'll just go back to square one. I also still feel resentful of the way he's treated me for years.
I just need to help, advice? Has anyone ever been in this position?