My best years are behind me and I've nothing to look forward to

[RockStarMartini]

I read this phrase on another thread (but this isn’t a taat really) and it summed up how I feel completely.

I’m early 50s with a child who recently left home so I now live alone. I do have a lovely partner but he feels like the only positive thing in my life - my job is unfulfilling and I’m not valued there, I earn a bit above average but my mortgage and bills take up most of it and retirement feels a long way away. My parents are ageing and increasingly in need of help that I don’t feel willing or able to give - it feels like a massive burden that’s only going to get worse. I’m always tired and I’m sad and fed up with how shit the world is.

I know it’s likely my age that makes me feel this way but I can’t even find the motivation to try and sort it out. What is the point once you’ve ticked off all life’s boxes? Education/house/marriage/kids/career - then what? I don’t have the time, money or energy for anything else.

@RockStarMartini but you only have to focus on three things to start: drs, an activity, make-up, hair or colours.

Baby steps.

There are some negative Nancy’s on here! 50 is no age - you’ve very possibly got years ahead of you! The best years are only behind you if you make it that way!

Have you considered HRT?

I've been feeling a bit melancholy as middle age approaches! I lost my Mum a few years ago, and I really miss her. My Dad is doing okay, he has lots of friends and people who love him, I just feel for him because I know how much he misses her.

I've got a lovely life with an amazing husband and daughter (14). I find myself thinking back though to how effortlessly happy I was as a youngster, my mind wanders back to holidays and Christmas with my parents and extended family - it's like nostalgia on steroids, such a raw longing for those days. I presume it must be part of the grieving process?

Anyway, I hope this period of the blues passes soon @RockStarMartini and you feel happier 😊