To be sick of being told I should have kids?

[itiswhatitisxx]

I'm mid 30s. I moved back in with my parents 18months ago after my marriage ended.i have a fab relationship with them they are like my best mates. I could move out however id like to save to buy somewhere and right now isn't the best time for me to do that.I'm constantly being told I need to have kids now at my age,my life will be lonely without them etc etc. I have suffered miscarriages in the past.I'm not in a relationship where I'd want to have children.
My life isn't anywhere what I thought it would be for my age and everyday i hate myself for that.

A particular generation were brought up on 'success=marriage+kids' and force it onto millennials. I'm zillenial and just bought a property and this chat has come up again

Who is saying this to you? It’s unbelievably rude and insensitive!

Tell them so, and to keep their uncalled for opinions to themselves.

No one should have kids in this day and age the planet and our entire society is a shit show. I feel guilty bringing a child into this terrible world.

My response would be (when people ask), don't you think that's a bit of a sensitive question to ask considering you don't know a persons circumstances? You have to stop putting pressure on yourself! That's coming from a 27 year old with three children! I love my children but would I of rather waited till my thirties? YES however children are not for everyone and that's okay!! Think of all the things you have been able to accomplish without the worry or stress of having a child to provide for. When and IF you want children then there are options. Everything will fall into place.

More and more people are electing not to have children for many different, but very valid reasons.
Please don't feel under pressure, it is your life, your choice.

Thank you for the lovely replies!
I do think it's such an insensitive thing to ask any woman never mind a single one.i just never thought in my mid30s id be single,back at home and wondering what my life will be.especially after marrying the person I always believed id have all those things with and that ending.
Society puts such a pressure on everything.

Who is saying this to you? Are they trying to encourage you to get back out there as they no you want kids?

Family members,some friends and also people I don't know that well will say 'no kids yet,you're leaving that late times ticking'
I wanted kids especially with my exh,we suffered miscarriages,and if I'm honest I couldn't imagine him not being my kids dad.
I'm coming up to the higher end of 30,single and I don't know if that's what I want anymore.but I'm scared I'll always regret it and be lonely later on in life.

Oh, people are idiots, @itiswhatitisxx, and can be desperate to force you into a mould. Get over to the ‘Mners without children’ board.

Also, if it’s the slightest consolation, I was happily childfree and in a relationship in my late 30s and randoms I met at neighbours’ parties were baffled by me not being single, not being infertile, just not wanting what they thought I was supposed to want.

Then I did have a baby just before turning 40, and the same people all went nuts because I wasn’t having another one, because having an only child ‘was selfish’.

Incidentally, it’s deeply enviable you have such a good relationship with your parents!

I am childless and early 40s, so understand the comments. I just tell people I vastly prefer cats to children (which is true!) and that normally shuts them up.

That's so rude of them! I'd tell them off but its probably not the best idea 😭

Btw, there's no perfect time for a baby! If you want to do it, look into other avenues! But if you don't, it's perfectly fine and you'll have a lovely life either way x

Ignore them it’s none of their business, kids are definitely not the be all and end all so don’t be put under pressure by these people

I think some people who have kids think every child free woman wants / envies their lives but when you make it clear that you definitely do not they get very put out / offended