DH and DS teeth brushing

[SunnySkyline]

I’ve noticed DH only brushes his teeth every few days. We went on holiday last year and we’d been there 4 days and his brand new toothbrush was still sitting in its packaging 🤢 He’s never encouraged our children to brush - literally ever. Or wash their faces before leaving the house etc If I didn’t brush their teeth or tell them to do it, it wouldn’t happen. He took our oldest away recently and on the second day (evening) I rang them and asked eldest if he been brushing-nope! DH hadnt either. They hadn’t had time 🤢

AIBU? This is 🤮

Grim..surely u knew this about him before you had kids ?

Obviously not being unreasonable. You need to discuss this asap?

My ex used to be like this. He gave me the ick so badly I found him repulsive. I share a child with him and unfortunately he doesn't bother trying to take care of her teeth during her time with him either. I try doubly hard in her time with me.

You deserve better than this op.

Could you scare DH into brushing by showing him the price of dental treatment these days? £800+ for a root canal etc.

Whirlwind romance 🫣We moved very fast! Got to know each other after babies. Not necessarily recommended.

I don't get how you didn't already know this?

His teeth look clean but it still gives me the ick! It’s something I’ve noticed over time/holidays where his new in packaging toothbrush hasn’t been opened and I’ve had to nag him to brush them or when I first had a feeling that he wasn’t brushing I would place his toothbrush in a very specific position so I would know if it had been moved.

He’s got a fancy electric toothbrush and when he does brush he spends ages cleaning them but I know that he leaves the house for work in the morning without washing his face/brushing.

Weirdly his breath isn’t too bad. He eats lots of apples and chews gum etc.

You’ve given lots of updates/new posts but have not addressed why you’ve not sat down and discussed it with him? What happens when he suddenly needs an expensive tooth treatment or has gum disease - do you have the money to pay for it?

He has an NHS dentist thankfully. He has had a few root canals since we met. He’s not the type of person that is easy to talk to about these things. He says I’m nagging/im telling him what to do. He’s a difficult person to reason with.

If my DH was going to get into bed without having brushed his teeth I'd just say 'you've forgotten to brush your teeth'. If it's the morning just say 'god don't leave the house without brushing your teeth you have morning breath!' or something similar..

If you can’t voice to your husband that he needs to brush his teeth morning and night you’ve got much bigger problems. Don’t focus on the ‘teeth’ being an ‘ick’ and let the actual issue - him being difficult/shutting you down - fall to the side.