to think that less than 2 months after a marriage break-up is too soon to go "out on the pull".........

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as I'm going out on the piss on Friday night with a friend (a MN'er as it happens LOL) but some of my friends at the school today were suggesting that I should be going out on the pull !!! (not much chance of that in our town LOL).

I'm not mad am I???? (please don't be too honest with your answer to that question )

things happen when you least expect them. have a great night, I am !!!

YOu do what you feel up to lady.

And you ignore the folks at the school gates who probably dont know you tremendously well and like to egg folk on for sport.

Agree with PC. I wasn't out on the pull when I first met my new partner, just a few months after my separation! (not spoilt for choice in my town either, so I was thinking in the same way as you!)

oh I know some of them very well LOL

I just thought it was a little odd that they seemed to think that being on the pull after just under 2 months after splitting was "normal"

(or maybe I'm just "out of touch" )

maybe they just think that will constitute a 'good night' to have a flirt, and a bit of fun.

Christ, I am about 2 months down the line, though he only moved out 3 weeks ago, I imagine it is going to be months (and months and months) until I am going on the pull!
Although I have no idea how to do that anyway, having been with H since I was 19.

I don't think I have much of a clue either - he was my first serious BF - and I was 19 when I met him LOL

I suppose in theory it's been 4 months since the marriage broke up, just under 2 months since he moved out though..

Still I guess I can have a "guilt free" flirt

well - as long as you have FUN!

I went out for a meal with a friend last wek when H had the kids.

SOme people would say that the best way to get over one man is to get under another one - and it is certainly true that at the very least being chatted up can make you feel better if you have recently split from a partner (reasuures you that you are desirable, it's good to have someone actively try to please and impress you etc) b ut how far you are ready to take ny flirtations is entirely up to you. And if you find yourself a bit of a target for desperate men, you can probably get a drink or two out of them and then burst into tears when you fancy making your escape.

i would assume by that they meant just flirt with random men, and feel your self confidence boosted for an evening

LOL Madamez at "bursting into tears".......or I could just tell them I have 3 young boys LOL.

with the men round here the mention of 3 kids would have them running for the hills

even tho i was devastated whn dh left, a few months later I was 'looking' not for a new partner, but was actively eyeballing men, in ways I hadn't done in yrs, as before had never felt the desire too.

my prob is , like some of the other single mums, is that i have regressed/ gone back to my pre dh age in taste, and look at the young ones hee hee.

oh god, I SO don't want to date.

i had a lunch date today, its 3 yrs on for me, and ok i didn't fancy him to much, but I also could not envisage how I would have any energy to be arsed with someone else in mylife!!

mind you had he been gorg, i might have tried!!

I've never really done the "dating" either - H and I practically moved into together as soon as we'd met

lol, I can see that at some point I will want to.
I just don't want to have to date, I don't think I have ever really dates.

arrggghhhhhhh
I should go to bed.

lol FAQ, we were living together (students) before we got together, although we had known each other for a year.
I split up with previous long term (2 yrs) boyfriend, thought "right, time for some fun - no more serious relationships for a while" and 2 days later was in bed with H. That was 17 years ago.

i have never dated either. any boyfreinds I have had have been from one night stands that turned into relationships.

my ex dh was a one night stand who i actually didn't go home with, BUT i rang him after I got home ( an hour later)and he came round!!

I think 2 months is maybe too soon to enter into a serious relationship. Maybe. imo.

However, I think 2 months is not too soon for a bit of ego-boosting (safe) how's yer father! with no promises.

If you're into that sort of thing, of course.