To ask what do you talk about with your friends?

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Inspired by a few threads I have seen about friends that can be draining because they can complain too much.

Do you think you have ever been that friend? Do you have a friend like that? If you have a friend that you see on a regular basis, how much of that time is spent moaning about different stuff? Is it ok to moan a little and get things off your chest or should you try and be positive at all times?

Most of my friends have different tastes to me in a lot of things - which is fine. But then I worry that our time is spent just complaining about things. I quite like a deep conversation about in depth topics, but I worry my friends would be bored by this so don’t tend to talk about those kinds of things.

What are the content of your conversations?

I often think about that quote.
In reality, most of us do all three

You sound like you might be an introvert, preferring deeper more meaningful conversations as apposed to small talk, gossip and bitchy chit chat.
I'm like that and have fewer friends but we can talk about something deep for hours but I really dislike things like the school run because I'd rather stick pins in my eyes than make awkward small talk with Joseph's mum in the playground.

Lol at introverts being the ones to have deep meaningful convos while extroverts are shallow and stupid.

Gossip and bitching has nothing to do with introversion or extroversion.

Depends on the friends — I have a lot of friends who work in academia, the arts and creative industries, so we talk a lot about work, music, books, film etc with a side order of professional gossip, rivalries etc.

Indeed!

I think I actually have too much of this kind of conversation. Especially at the beginning of the evening. I might even call that superficial talk. It's deeper when you get into personal stuff like feelings and relationships (of all kinds not just romantic).

Yes, perhaps it’s the way those topics are talked about.
It’s one thing to go to the nth degree about something that someone has done to piss you off. A whole other and perhaps more productive conversation to try and understand together why that person may have done that and what you can do/say to remedy it

I do agree with you. I am definitely an introvert but, as I am also not perfect, sometimes I will rant about someone or something but I try not to do it too much and usually getting it off my chest makes me feel differently about it

Let's be real, we're talking about other people LOL

Talk about allsorts! I'm ok to listen to moaning, and regarded a good friend who'll listen, but since I took on my current job I've found it harder. I now work listening to moaning/unhappiness all day, so do prefer to spend my non work days talking about happy things!
It's a bit like chefs who hate coming home to cook, but everyone expects them to want to cook all day..

@Errors no it’s not always a moan! Sometimes it’s to vent, otherwise might be celebrating success or praising people
For example I had coffee with a friend this morning and on my part moaned about elderly DM driving me potty - talked about DS house buying plans, DD new kitten and dieting success and DP new job
She told me about news with her DH business - good news re DM cancer treatment, her DS graduation and new GF
Then we moved onto a huge range of other topics

All sorts, lots of talk about music and cooking, work, lots of health talk lately because of ill health, politics, pretty much anything

All sorts!

Books, work, writing projects, academic stuff, folklore, theatre, the kids, family life, dogs, music, politics. Sometimes serious and sometimes not serious, just depends on the mood. I think everyone has a bit of a moan now and again, but never constantly - that'd bore me. Always lots of laughing tbh.

Two recent conversations I've had today were about:

• Friend one: a book we both read, something to do with cheese, and our dogs.

• Friend two: a specific event we're going to on Saturday evening, and also my cat who had a sore paw.

Books, films, theatre, holidays, recipes, hobbies, politics, news, kids, partners, aging parents, work, friends, health, exercise, just stuff we do & consider I guess!!