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AIBU to agree to swap bedrooms with DD15?

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sammyspoon · 27/01/2025 16:56

Just interested to see what others would do in this situ - We have a pretty typical 4 bed semi for our family of 4 - 2 large doubles on 1st floor, one box room, bathroom, then loft double bedroom with ensuite. Box room is used as a study and each daughter has a double room and we have the loft. Plenty of space for all, we're very fortunate. The 1st floor bedrooms have really great storage, double wardrobes in each. Large shared bathroom. Loft has a tiny shower room and awkward storage, it's a big room with lots of floor space but very awkward storage. My 15 year old has asked if there is any possibility of her having the loft room as she would make better use of the space and spends lots of time in her room. DH said no way as it is the 'best' room therefore should be ours.
I have never loved the room - it gets boiling in summer, the ensuite is really tiny so I use the main bathroom anyway, i don't particularly enjoy hearing DH getting up and peeing in the night, and the storage isn't good for 2 people. It has loads of floor space, so she could have a little sofa in there, which we would never do as we only use the room to sleep. It has nice views. I'd be happy to swap, on the understanding that if / when she moved out of home and we or her sister wanted the room, she would have to go along with that. DH thinks I am nuts in considering her request.

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momofonex · 31/01/2025 22:22

I think it's fine you're considering it but it's not very nice on your other DD who would probably love that room too. I think to keep it fair they should have similar rooms

sammyspoon · 01/02/2025 09:14

DD and DH went for a walk yesterday and she pulled out all her persuasive skills. We spoke about it this morning. He's willing to give it some more thought. He hadn't realised that I don't view the loft as the 'best' room. He's also concerned we will have to repaint as her bedroom walls are trashed... I said I can do it (eek!) and we can choose a new colour together...
I would also have a quiet word with DD 2. She really loves her own room anyway but we could give her the option of the loft in a couple of years.

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TheFlyingHorse · 01/02/2025 09:27

We've recently swapped rooms with DD19. Our old room was slightly bigger and has better natural light it also has built in storage which is one of the reasons DH and I took it as two of us have more stuff than DD on her own.

DD has moaned about her room since we moved in two years ago and we agreed to swap a couple of months ago. I've redecorated our new room and having less storage forced a big clothes clear out which I really needed. I now love the new room which has a more interesting view from the window and have no regrets.

sammyspoon · 02/02/2025 16:16

Well I just had a chat with DD2 about this and her main concern about the switch is that she'll have us as her next door neighbours instead of her sister. And we need to promise not to cramp her style.

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