Do I still love my ex?

[PleaseJolene]

we split up around 8 months ago, he is with somebody else now but is always very flirty when he comes round. I ended it because he took the piss out of me for years and his life didn’t change at all after we had kids. I had too much resentment in the end. The thing is I do still think about him a lot,
especially now he has a new woman, they have only been together for 1 month and he is taking her abroad.

You still love the man you thought your ex was. He's currently pretending to be that great guy again now for the new girlfriend and you are a bit jealous. He will undoubtedly end up taking the piss out her too when the honeymoon period is over. You broke up for a reason, trust yourself. Perhaps find someone to go on a few dates with and take your mind off the ex?

Well if he is supposed to have a new relationship but he is being very flirty with you OP it shows what kind of guy he is.

He might be taking his new woman abroad but he obviously doesn't have any scruples about coming onto other women.

So really you are better to see him for what he is and steer clear of reigniting any thing with him..

I just don’t understand it I suppose. He said I didn’t want him in my life anymore and made his life hell the last few months we were together. It’s like he isn’t taking any accountability for why it ended. He still looks at me in the same way he always has, could this other woman be a rebound?

It sounds like you can't get to grips with him being in another relationship: that you don't like the thought of him being with some one else. And I think that's natural if you were with him for a long time.
And his behaviour sounds as though his pride is hurt by you ending things with him so he is trying to play games with you to see if he can reel you back in to boost his ego.
I think you should hold on to the memory of how he behaved when you were together and the reasons you ended things with him. And try not to obsess about him and his relationship with his new woman.

First post nails it. And if you were crazy enough to have him back, he would behave even worse because he'd knows you don't follow through with threats and he can get away with anything.

He is trying to boost his own ego by being all pleasant and flirty and making you jealous. You want him to be distraught he's lost you, have a lightbulb moment that he behaved terribly, and then - what?

You are letting him get in your head. STOP!!!

Thank you so much

My head is a mess at the minute as he told me he liked this woman 8 months ago just so I begged for him back which I did. How can he be with her now? None of it makes any sense?

He must like her if he has took her on holiday as somebody wouldn’t go that far surely?

I would never go back now anyway after what he has done to me.