I had my DD in November, and she is the first grandchild on both sides of the family. My husband’s family adore her and exercise healthy boundaries, acknowledging she is our baby (mine and my husband). My family also adore her, but in my opinion are being overbearing and almost possessive over her, as if she is a ‘communal baby’ that they have equal rights to. My Grandma has made comments on how DD is ‘our’ baby (as in my side of the family) and not as much my husband’s family’s. My sister had kindly sewn a few baby dresses, and has proceeded to make matching dresses for her to wear, and joked multiple times at how she and DD will match. She has shared posts on Instagram that say Aunts are as important in raising a daughter as the mother. When she visits, she constantly asks to hold the baby, even when I am trying to let DD get some much needed sleep in the daytime. The whole family seem unable to respect my request that they do not kiss the baby, and my other sister claims every time that she ‘forgets’. I find myself becoming weirdly possessive over my baby and feel as though my family don’t respect that she is MINE AND MY HUSBANDS baby, rather than a communal baby for the whole family to claim. I know they are coming from a place of love and mean no harm, which makes me think perhaps my feelings are unreasonable. Should I put up boundaries, or AIBU?