What age would you let your DC into a shop on their own

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DD is 8, 9 in a few weeks

Today we needed to go to the local shop (think a local Co op size so small ish) but i also needed to walk the dog we're are dog sitting. Obviously dog isn't allowed in the shop

Dd is relatively sensible so I told her the two things we needed (bread and milk) gave her £10 and watched her from the window while she went to buy them for me.

Should also point out we're probably at the shop 3-4 times a week so the shop staff know her and she was in my sight at all time.

Dh was working and juat got home and when I told him has gone mad saying I prioritised the dog over DD

I think it gave DD some responsibility and she loved it, not saying I will make a habit of it but proved to her she knew what to do

Your DH should learn how to parent.

What your daughter did is so unremarkable it's not even noteworthy 🤷‍♂️

I think it's quite common to send 8 or 9 year olds in for bread or milk whilst the adult is outside with the dog.

You dh sounds like he doesn't spend much actual time parenting. He's quick to criticise but then why didn't HE make sure you were stocked up.

This. I was going to say about 5 if it were something really simple.

At the age of 8 I was sending DD down to the corner shop (end of the road) to get milk! She was desperate for some independence.

Is he on crack? Wtf is he going on about?

8/9 is absolutely fine, teach them younger when they are in the shop with you how to pay ect they soon pick it up.
There's no negligence on your part as long as shes sensible.
Shame the same can't be said for the type of parents who just let their young children (either under 6 ish or the feral type) wander about out of sight and earshot once in a shop and mess with everything or run everywhere! At least you give a shit, paying attention to what she's doing and teaching her good life skills.

Nothing wrong with that. I would send DS in at a similar age and wait outside for him.

I would have started doing it much earlier, but he was a bit unpredictable at times, so there was no knowing what he might have come back out with, or even if he would have paid for it on the way back out.

But assuming no issues, then the sooner the better.

It's a perfectly normal, everyday occurrence. I'm genuinely perplexed by your husband's reaction.
Please show him the responses to this thread. He's being very odd.

I was around 5 when I used to get sent to the corner shop with a note for nans fags. But the 70s were different.

Nothing wrong with what you did but why didn’t you just leave the dog tied up outside?

While you were standing outside? I'd say four or five with a card rather than cash. Seven with the extra complication of cash.

Thieves.

I don't see anything wrong with that at all if you were stood outside! 🤷‍♀️

Nothing wrong with what you did but why didn’t you just leave the dog tied up outside?
There is absolutely no way would I leave my dogs tied up outside a shop!

Why was dh worried? Sounds fine to me.

5 maybe while you stand outside?
9ish to go to the corner shop alone.

Should also point out we're probably at the shop 3-4 times a week so the shop staff know her and she was in my sight at all time.

It would have been completely fine and unremarkable even if it was a shop she’d never been into before and you couldn’t see her. It’s the Co-op, not a crack den. Good grief.

Mines just turned 9 and lives going into the shop on her own. I wait outside. She also likes ordering her own drinks at Costa

I thought 8 year olds going into a shop on their own was the norm 🤷‍♀️. Your dh is being weird.

Your husband is a weirdo.

Prioritising the dog 😂

What a plonker

Going in with you waiting at the door is absolutely fine. He might have a point if you'd stayed home and sent her to walk it alone, but she was in your line of sight the whole time.

You were outside the shop and watching through the window. She couldn't have left the shop without you knowing and the shop assistant knows her. I'm so confused about why your partner was upset.

Absolutely nothing wrong with sending a nearly 9 year old into a small shop that she's familiar with to buy two items. It was very helpful of her and definitely helps support responsibility. You were just outside, so obviously she knew where you were and you knew she wouldn't leave the shop on her own. Silly response from your husband!!!

He does know you were waiting outside watching doesn’t he? He doesn’t think you walked the dog and she, separately, walked to the shop alone?

Agreed!
She's 8 not 18 months. Lots of children her age walk to the local corner shops and back without anyone batting an eye because it's a perfectly normal part of developing Independence.

I wouldn't even have thought to mention it to him it's just a completely ordinary thing to do.