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Household income. Where are you?

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chonka901 · 26/01/2025 11:43

https://ifs.org.uk/toolsanddresources/wheredooyoufitt_in

Using this link and putting in everything joint net income ,including child benefit and maintenance which I think it takes into account. It has us at 73 percent. Not a stealth boast before any states that. Genuinely surprised.

I certainly don't feel like this but appreciate people survive on less. It doesn't take into account mortgages, rent, generational wealth, inheritance, childcare etc so is a guide.

It is eye opening though.

I feel poor compared to my friends though. We definitely are not the London elite. Just public sector workers in the North. I guess the maintenance helps. My friends must be in the top 20 percent.

OP posts:
Intheoldendays · 26/01/2025 14:25

Well, we are in the lowest 13% but we own a house worth over half a million - despite rubbish income form one pension and my pathetic NHS salary, so I wouldn't consider us that bad! Interesting way to assess wealth

BlackCatsAreBrilliant · 26/01/2025 14:25

20% without housing costs,
28% with housing costs

Which feels about right. And explains why I am panicking at the imminent prospect of needing to buy a new car.

PandoraFrontier · 26/01/2025 14:25

Romeiswheretheheartis · 26/01/2025 13:18

I don’t think people realise how much money that is. It’s around about 110k a year. That actually isn’t a lot of money if your outgoings, like mine, are around 4.5k a month which isn’t really excessive. Yes like the PP says you don’t have to worry but you’re not rich.

But those outgoings are only possible because of an income of 110k. My outgoings have to be no more than 2.5k a month because that's all my income is. If your income's low, then you just can't have those sort of outgoings. Outgoings of 4.5k sound very excessive to me, as they're almost double mine.

Does it? We don’t have sky, car loans etc.

That’s just living. It could be less, granted. You absolutely live within your means. If I take annual costs into account, it’s probably more like 5k.

running 2 cars, 2 children in extra curriculars, and then general household bills (mortgage, gas, electricity, water, CT, food yada yada), gym memberships, personal hobbies (golf), that’s the outgoings.

it could be less like I said, if we had to we’d give up the gym and golf, children wouldn’t be able to do extra curriculars, go down to one car etc.

I was just really trying to explain why those in the 90% range don’t actually feel rich.

SoftPillow · 26/01/2025 14:26

98% on both pre and post house cost.

We obviously know we are very fortunate. I wouldn’t expect my DC to be anywhere near this when they are independent (although obviously would be very happy if they were), nor were our parents before us anywhere close.

financialcareerstuff · 26/01/2025 14:27

shuggles · 26/01/2025 14:16

@financialcareerstuff This is an extremely blunt instrument - doesn't clearly factor in energy costs, repair costs, car costs, or primary mortgage payments, ... and doesn't distinguish between kids with nursery care costs, versus in full time state education, versus private school etc..

With energy and repairs, you have a valid point.

However, mortgage payments, nursery costs, private education are all linked to personal choices. No one is allowed to complain about costs linked to choices.

But my point wasn't about complaining and whether it's ok to complain - it's questioning the validity of the conclusion that you are in X percentile of any meaningful measurable.

This neither measures your real, unavoidable costs, nor your assets, nor your actual spending..... so what is it actually trying to say? It's basically saying "here's your percentile placement based on a rather random 60% selection of relevant data needed to tell you something meaningful".... which is why so many people are confused by their results and the fact that it doesn't correlate to their experience.

SP2024 · 26/01/2025 14:30

81%. About where I expected it to be.

Whammyyammy · 26/01/2025 14:30

95%. 2 adults and kids all left home

shuggles · 26/01/2025 14:32

@financialcareerstuff But my point wasn't about complaining and whether it's ok to complain - it's questioning the validity of the conclusion that you are in X percentile of any meaningful measurable. This neither measures your real, unavoidable costs, nor your assets, nor your actual spending..... so what is it actually trying to say? It's basically saying "here's your percentile placement based on a rather random 60% selection of relevant data needed to tell you something meaningful"....

The point I am making is that personal spending choices have absolutely no bearing on how well off you are, because that's a personal and conscious decision made as to how to use your own expendable income.

The unavoidable costs that you mention do have a bearing on how well off people are, of course.

which is why so many people are confused by their results and the fact that it doesn't correlate to their experience.

Some people are just being outright daft. I already provided the analogy of someone who says he has no food because there is no food left after he consumed multiple takeaways that day.

pelargoniums · 26/01/2025 14:34

86% without housing, 66% with. Once you factor in nursery fees and the fact the house is a fixer-upper so mentally, you’re surrounded by phantom “ooh, this’ll cost ya” reminders you can’t hide from, it makes sense that despite DP’s relatively high earnings and equity in the house we spend a lot of time scratching round down the back of the sofa trying to afford life.

We drive an inherited banger, don’t have holidays or gym membership or takeaways, no bells and whistles. We could also scrimp and plan better but it does feel a bit like we’re in the wack-a-mole years of small children when there’s always bloody something. It was reassuring to here from brighter minds than mine on this thread that the calculator ain’t all that, because 66% made me panic – why don’t we feel OK?!

Scirocco · 26/01/2025 14:37

The global rating questionnaire posted earlier may be quite thought-provoking for people, in terms of reflecting on how fortunate many people are and how much of a difference could be made by charitable giving from people with incomes in the higher percentages.

MarshMallowHeather · 26/01/2025 14:37

56... I feel like I earn quite good money, think it averages out because I'm the sole breadwinner. If there were two of me and we were a couple we would be at 97 😆

Edited to say I didn't realise it was net income, in which case I am waaaay lower

littleluncheon · 26/01/2025 14:37

PandoraFrontier · 26/01/2025 14:25

Does it? We don’t have sky, car loans etc.

That’s just living. It could be less, granted. You absolutely live within your means. If I take annual costs into account, it’s probably more like 5k.

running 2 cars, 2 children in extra curriculars, and then general household bills (mortgage, gas, electricity, water, CT, food yada yada), gym memberships, personal hobbies (golf), that’s the outgoings.

it could be less like I said, if we had to we’d give up the gym and golf, children wouldn’t be able to do extra curriculars, go down to one car etc.

I was just really trying to explain why those in the 90% range don’t actually feel rich.

But if you had an average income, your outgoings would be much lower.
You can only afford to spend £5k a month because you're richer than most people.

Jellycatspyjamas · 26/01/2025 14:37

I was just really trying to explain why those in the 90% range don’t actually feel rich.

It’s lifestyle creep though, if you didn’t have the income you wouldn’t be paying for gym membership, or golf, or extra curricular activities. You’d run a small, cheap car - or not at all - you’d have a smaller house etc. You choose to do all of that because your income has risen and, for most people, their spending increases according. You’re richer than people who can’t make those choices, because the money simply isn’t there.

Quiinkong · 26/01/2025 14:38

46% DP and i earn roughly the same and we have a 6mth old DS. I still feel very fortunate because we never struggle to pay our bills and aren't lacking anything, thank God.

denhaag · 26/01/2025 14:41

Intheoldendays · 26/01/2025 14:25

Well, we are in the lowest 13% but we own a house worth over half a million - despite rubbish income form one pension and my pathetic NHS salary, so I wouldn't consider us that bad! Interesting way to assess wealth

It's not assessing wealth, it's an income calculator.

Papyrophile · 26/01/2025 14:42

We're at the lower end of the top third, but I misread the instructions first time round and used gross figures. Which gave an impressive, but completely incorrect, result.

TunipTheVegimal24 · 26/01/2025 14:43

AsACloud · 26/01/2025 14:10

98% which doesn’t feel right, given how many millionaire's there are in this world! Very aware how fortunate we are though.

The richest 1 percent have more wealth than the bottom 95 percent of the world’s population put together. So the scale is quite skewed - the top 1%, are richer than the average person could imagine.

UnimaginableWindBird · 26/01/2025 14:44

22%. Which is about right. By Mumsnet financial standards, we are simultaneously living an deeply unenviable ife (no car, no babysitters, not much in the way of travel, very cheap somewhat ramshackle house on a council estate) and also living in unfathomable luxury (mortgage paid off, DH took early retirement, my job is fun and fulfilling, catchment area of excellent state schools, home a short walk from city centre of highly desirable city, relatives in delightful holiday locations, easy access to cultural amenities).

tachetastic · 26/01/2025 14:44

95%, but this doesn’t take into account school fee so we certainly don’t feel it.

Quiinkong · 26/01/2025 14:44

InDogweRust · 26/01/2025 14:19

We are really high which doesn't surprise me as both DH and i earn loads.

We pay loads of tax though. I think a lot of lower earners don't realise how much tax comes off higher salaries. Someone on £120k doesn't take home twice what someone on £60k does.

£120k - take home £75k
£60k - take home £45k

The extra £60k costs you £30k in tax.

The amount of tax is madness! No one should be paying that much tax, it's just wrong.

StormingNorman · 26/01/2025 14:46

Scirocco · 26/01/2025 14:37

The global rating questionnaire posted earlier may be quite thought-provoking for people, in terms of reflecting on how fortunate many people are and how much of a difference could be made by charitable giving from people with incomes in the higher percentages.

People on higher incomes give plenty…it’s called tax.

SnarkSideOfLife · 26/01/2025 14:46

Papyrophile · 26/01/2025 14:42

We're at the lower end of the top third, but I misread the instructions first time round and used gross figures. Which gave an impressive, but completely incorrect, result.

Oh, ooops, I did this too! Ha ha. I must be lower down though which makes more sense.

TunipTheVegimal24 · 26/01/2025 14:47

PandoraFrontier · 26/01/2025 14:25

Does it? We don’t have sky, car loans etc.

That’s just living. It could be less, granted. You absolutely live within your means. If I take annual costs into account, it’s probably more like 5k.

running 2 cars, 2 children in extra curriculars, and then general household bills (mortgage, gas, electricity, water, CT, food yada yada), gym memberships, personal hobbies (golf), that’s the outgoings.

it could be less like I said, if we had to we’d give up the gym and golf, children wouldn’t be able to do extra curriculars, go down to one car etc.

I was just really trying to explain why those in the 90% range don’t actually feel rich.

🤦‍♀️

Crikeyalmighty · 26/01/2025 14:47

83% - highish income, but high housing costs

Scirocco · 26/01/2025 14:48

StormingNorman · 26/01/2025 14:46

People on higher incomes give plenty…it’s called tax.

Just think what 10% of the wealth of people like Musk, Bezos, et al could do for global inequality, though...