AIBU to want reciprocal making of bed from DH?
context: My husband and I are considering separating. We sleep in twin beds in our room. We have two children under 8. My main reason for wanting to split is a lack of support and any form of affection. He has said he will make an effort and I’ve agreed to do the same; to prevent separation. This is a last ditch effort. We’d prefer not to divorce for the kids sake.
Most days he makes his bed and opens the curtain on his side of the room. If I notice his bed is not made, I will make it. Ditto other things around the house as you inevitably do when living together. I mentioned that when he doesn’t make my bed or open the curtain on my side of the room, it makes me resentful. I’ve mentioned it before and again this morning, explaining that it upsets and annoys me. He said he felt he was not being unreasonable and could not see my point of view.
Am I being unreasonable to feel this way? I just feel it reinforces feeling uncared for and like my emotions don’t matter. I know it sounds petty but it really upsets me. I don’t ask for much!