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Child being used in huge ad without consent

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Ferniefernfernfern · 26/01/2025 09:39

Background: My child (early primary school age) plays a sport at the local club and recently, there was a photographer taking pictures of his tournament. The pictures inevitably cropped up on Facebook and Instagram. Usually we don't allow our children to appear on social media but decided to let it go, as the tournament was free and we didn't want to make a fuss.

However, one of the pictures of him has now been made into a 6 foot tall banner advertising the club. I had previously emailed them (about 3 months ago) letting them know my children's images cannot be used for commercial purposes. My kids are in the minority where we live, so I think their look makes them particularly marketable. I've had to ask for their pictures to be taken down by virtually every single school and activity they've ever participated in.

I've just followed up on my previous email suggesting that they remunerate my son in the form of covering his half-term camp costs (around £100).

AIBU? My background is in advertising/TV and I know how easy it is for businesses to exploit children's images without proper payment or consent, but maybe I'm overthinking it.

OP posts:
Bramshott · 27/01/2025 18:46

Any talk of modelling and model payments is a bit of a red herring really. A small club was never going to use models and pay money - that's for large brands. It's pretty standard to use pictures of beneficiaries in these contexts. If they don't have permission to use the images of your children (and totally get that you did not give it, and are not happy, and they should be removing those ads), they will just redo the ad with other children who attend the club.

Auldlang · 27/01/2025 18:48

LadyTable · 26/01/2025 13:38

I've just followed up on my previous email suggesting that they remunerate my son in the form of covering his half-term camp costs (around £100).

AIBU? My background is in advertising/TV and I know how easy it is for businesses to exploit children's images without proper payment or consent, but maybe I'm overthinking it.

This did make me laugh OP, the irony! 🤣🤣

I was completely with you until you declared YOU want paying to reimburse YOU for a club you'd already decided to pay out for, because you don't think THEY should exploit your son!

Think about it lol.

Oh don't be silly.

Cerealkiller4U · 27/01/2025 18:48

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we have a business now I. Cyber security

trsut me when I say there is a hell if a lot wrong with putting your kids on social media and can do u told damage. I have seen the bad side of it.

DreamW3aver · 27/01/2025 18:51

Arran2024 · 27/01/2025 18:23

OK, so I have 2 adopted children and there was a big no no around having their photos circulated in case they were tracked down by their birth parents. We went to Center Parcs shortly after the adoption and a travel show was filming there and we had to find out their filming itinerary so we wouldn't be in the shots.

That's why you dont want your children to be photographed, the quote refers to "children" so unless the poster missed out a word its an objection in principle.

And it's a valid question to wonder why

feelingrobbed · 27/01/2025 18:53

Gosh! We fear this happening as also a minority in our area. We've specifically ticked no commercial use for our DC's picture. I would be so upset.

Haven't read full thread hope you get it sorted

Elektra1 · 27/01/2025 18:55

This is an Article 8 (human rights) issue. I would refer to that in your next communication. It's outrageous to use a child's image for commercial purposes when you've expressly said that you do not want this.

Whattodo1610 · 27/01/2025 18:55

WomenInConstruction · 26/01/2025 13:30

She didn't let them. She said no, then when they did anyway, she objected and got nowhere... The money was an attempt to redress that to some level of fairness. It wasn't her objective.

No not quite .. read again. When she saw the first image on SM she did nothing. That was the time to address it. I’ve no doubt she signed forms initially on starting at the club, agreeing to photos being taken and used.

PoppyTries · 27/01/2025 18:55

Frostynoman · 26/01/2025 10:23

This is very wrong of the club and the photographer (and agency if there is one involved for the marketing)

However, asking £100 is too low. I’ve just seen an Ella job request for at home clips of little ones eating their product with remuneration of £300.

As pp have said, get legal advice

Agreed, £100 is far too low. Camp should be free (at least). unprofessional of them to use a photo without a model release.

My brother ran a marathon & photo release is included when someone signs up. We were surprised to see a poster of him prominently used in advertising the following year’s race. We contacted the race office and were able to get him one of the posters. Assuming OP is able to come to an agreement with the club, she should include that they are given a poster or two - they would make a nice keepsake.

llizzie · 27/01/2025 18:56

Ferniefernfernfern · 26/01/2025 09:39

Background: My child (early primary school age) plays a sport at the local club and recently, there was a photographer taking pictures of his tournament. The pictures inevitably cropped up on Facebook and Instagram. Usually we don't allow our children to appear on social media but decided to let it go, as the tournament was free and we didn't want to make a fuss.

However, one of the pictures of him has now been made into a 6 foot tall banner advertising the club. I had previously emailed them (about 3 months ago) letting them know my children's images cannot be used for commercial purposes. My kids are in the minority where we live, so I think their look makes them particularly marketable. I've had to ask for their pictures to be taken down by virtually every single school and activity they've ever participated in.

I've just followed up on my previous email suggesting that they remunerate my son in the form of covering his half-term camp costs (around £100).

AIBU? My background is in advertising/TV and I know how easy it is for businesses to exploit children's images without proper payment or consent, but maybe I'm overthinking it.

Are you asking if it is unreasonable to expect the photos to be removed as you want to safeguard your child's image, or are you asking if it is unreasonable to ask for money?

Mumofnarnia · 27/01/2025 18:59

Ferniefernfernfern · 26/01/2025 09:39

Background: My child (early primary school age) plays a sport at the local club and recently, there was a photographer taking pictures of his tournament. The pictures inevitably cropped up on Facebook and Instagram. Usually we don't allow our children to appear on social media but decided to let it go, as the tournament was free and we didn't want to make a fuss.

However, one of the pictures of him has now been made into a 6 foot tall banner advertising the club. I had previously emailed them (about 3 months ago) letting them know my children's images cannot be used for commercial purposes. My kids are in the minority where we live, so I think their look makes them particularly marketable. I've had to ask for their pictures to be taken down by virtually every single school and activity they've ever participated in.

I've just followed up on my previous email suggesting that they remunerate my son in the form of covering his half-term camp costs (around £100).

AIBU? My background is in advertising/TV and I know how easy it is for businesses to exploit children's images without proper payment or consent, but maybe I'm overthinking it.

I used to do modelling. They are not allowed to use the pictures without you having signed a release first. I would be seeking legal advice as they should have obtained parental permission first. There is also the safeguarding aspect of things too. Even schools don’t allow pictures to be taken during school plays due to safeguarding reasons. They are in major breach

Cerealkiller4U · 27/01/2025 18:59

Alltheyearround · 27/01/2025 18:17

Ah didn't see the part where permission was given. I never give permission as I object to children being used to advertise anything, school, clubs etc.

I would take it very seriously if I found a data breach and DS had been photographed. Parents of adopted or fostered children in particular need their child to remain off limits for photos/film footage for very, very good reason.

Yeah. I home educate my kids and we were kicked out of a a home Ed group because I had to constantly ask the lady who ran the group to take my kids off her social media page due to our jobs I don’t allow it

she did it 5 times and I guess she got pissed off that I asked? And kicked me out

shocking behaviour and shows you just what home Ed groups are like if I say so myself!

Arran2024 · 27/01/2025 19:01

Bramshott · 27/01/2025 18:46

Any talk of modelling and model payments is a bit of a red herring really. A small club was never going to use models and pay money - that's for large brands. It's pretty standard to use pictures of beneficiaries in these contexts. If they don't have permission to use the images of your children (and totally get that you did not give it, and are not happy, and they should be removing those ads), they will just redo the ad with other children who attend the club.

The remedy here is a complaint re data protection and whatever sanction the club is given, plus getting the ad taken down.

DreamW3aver · 27/01/2025 19:02

snowmichael · 27/01/2025 15:02

OP had a reasonable and sensible discourse when she wrote to the club saying photos of her child could not be used
The club clearly have no interest in obeying the law
They should be penalised, heavily

Edited

Unless I've missed it there's nothing to say that they have no interest in obeying the law. They don't appear to have responded yet, thats not the same thing.

Fam23 · 27/01/2025 19:04

Ferniefernfernfern · 26/01/2025 09:39

Background: My child (early primary school age) plays a sport at the local club and recently, there was a photographer taking pictures of his tournament. The pictures inevitably cropped up on Facebook and Instagram. Usually we don't allow our children to appear on social media but decided to let it go, as the tournament was free and we didn't want to make a fuss.

However, one of the pictures of him has now been made into a 6 foot tall banner advertising the club. I had previously emailed them (about 3 months ago) letting them know my children's images cannot be used for commercial purposes. My kids are in the minority where we live, so I think their look makes them particularly marketable. I've had to ask for their pictures to be taken down by virtually every single school and activity they've ever participated in.

I've just followed up on my previous email suggesting that they remunerate my son in the form of covering his half-term camp costs (around £100).

AIBU? My background is in advertising/TV and I know how easy it is for businesses to exploit children's images without proper payment or consent, but maybe I'm overthinking it.

You’re definitely not being unreasonable about your request for them not to be on social media or advertising. I think you are being unreasonable about asking for the sessions to be paid for as an apology. The way you’ve worded it in your OP it makes it sound like you’ll only be okay with it if you’re financially reimbursed.

Mumofnarnia · 27/01/2025 19:09

Bramshott · 27/01/2025 18:46

Any talk of modelling and model payments is a bit of a red herring really. A small club was never going to use models and pay money - that's for large brands. It's pretty standard to use pictures of beneficiaries in these contexts. If they don't have permission to use the images of your children (and totally get that you did not give it, and are not happy, and they should be removing those ads), they will just redo the ad with other children who attend the club.

Not a red herring as it works in the same way to modelling. If they are using the pictures as advertising material then op has the right to ask for money. I used to be a model and no way would I ever have let anyone take my pictures for promotional material without being paid. It reminds me of the ‘low budget’ brands who couldn’t afford models, yet wanted the models to work all day for free in return for free “exposure” without any financial benefit to the model…. all so that the company could benefit from the sales from using the advertising material while the poor model never saw a penny. It’s exploitative.

It’s not op’s problem if they’re struggling financially, they shouldn’t be using promotional pictures for free, especially without even obtaining parental permission!

OldScribbler · 27/01/2025 19:14

Ferniefernfernfern · 26/01/2025 09:39

Background: My child (early primary school age) plays a sport at the local club and recently, there was a photographer taking pictures of his tournament. The pictures inevitably cropped up on Facebook and Instagram. Usually we don't allow our children to appear on social media but decided to let it go, as the tournament was free and we didn't want to make a fuss.

However, one of the pictures of him has now been made into a 6 foot tall banner advertising the club. I had previously emailed them (about 3 months ago) letting them know my children's images cannot be used for commercial purposes. My kids are in the minority where we live, so I think their look makes them particularly marketable. I've had to ask for their pictures to be taken down by virtually every single school and activity they've ever participated in.

I've just followed up on my previous email suggesting that they remunerate my son in the form of covering his half-term camp costs (around £100).

AIBU? My background is in advertising/TV and I know how easy it is for businesses to exploit children's images without proper payment or consent, but maybe I'm overthinking it.

If your background - like mine - is in advertising why are you asking? You know very well you can sue the pants off them.

OldScribbler · 27/01/2025 19:17

And not just for £100. Your child's privacy is worth more than that.

VisitationRights · 27/01/2025 19:23

YANBU to say his image can’t be used. I am surprised they would use it, every sports club my children belong to asks us to sign a waiver on the use of photos, if you don’t sign then they don’t use them. I am assuming you never signed a consent form for them to use his image.

YABU to ask for compensation.

Alltheyearround · 27/01/2025 19:24

Cerealkiller4U · 27/01/2025 18:59

Yeah. I home educate my kids and we were kicked out of a a home Ed group because I had to constantly ask the lady who ran the group to take my kids off her social media page due to our jobs I don’t allow it

she did it 5 times and I guess she got pissed off that I asked? And kicked me out

shocking behaviour and shows you just what home Ed groups are like if I say so myself!

Some may be like that, I;m not doubting you. Not all though. I am fairly surprised, as most round here are quite hot on keeping privacy for children.

I have HE'd at one point and would again if circs were right, but asked to leave FB groups when child rejoined school. I think they don't want LA snooping - that's my guess, and safeguarding.

Commonsense22 · 27/01/2025 19:29

Ferniefernfernfern · 26/01/2025 10:17

My post says nothing about privacy. I think their image is valuable-especially in this day and age-and shouldn’t be exploited by businesses. It should belong to them and be theirs to benefit from. Sorry for the confusion.

Actually the licensing will typically belong to the photographer (how else can they make a living) and not the subject if taken at a live event. It's a common misconception.
HOWEVER participants will have signed a disclaimer and if you had asked for your child's image not to be used commercially then it shouldn't have been.
It's quite bad they overlooked your request. But there's no way your child would get paid for that image, it doesn't work like that.

CraftyGin · 27/01/2025 19:29

You have to give your consent in writing, and they can only use your child's image for the purposes you have agreed on.

You always have the right to withdraw consent.

Look at the club's Privacy Policy, and consider informing ICO if you are not satisfied.

Asking for money is not helpful.

Mumofnarnia · 27/01/2025 19:30

Bramshott · 27/01/2025 18:46

Any talk of modelling and model payments is a bit of a red herring really. A small club was never going to use models and pay money - that's for large brands. It's pretty standard to use pictures of beneficiaries in these contexts. If they don't have permission to use the images of your children (and totally get that you did not give it, and are not happy, and they should be removing those ads), they will just redo the ad with other children who attend the club.

Also further to my last reply on this post, they are using op’s child as a model so makes no difference! If someone is being used in promotional material then they are essentially modelling.
I don’t think you quite understand the legal implications of using images for promotional material. They legally have to ask the parent to sign a release stating they give permission for use of the pictures for promotional material. The release should also state how long they intend to use those pictures and where they intend to use them. So they should not be using ANY child whether or not the op consented, they should always obtain signed permission.

Op has every right to ask for payment and the pictures should not have been used for promotional material without obtaining a signed release from the parent stating that the pictures are to be used for promotional use. As I said earlier, not op’s problem if they cannot financially afford to pay. It’s not just large brands who should be paying for promotional material, any setup wanting to use pictures for promotional material should be paying otherwise it becomes exploitative.

Alltheyearround · 27/01/2025 19:35

DO school photos remain the copyright of the photography firm? Could they be used without parental consent (e.g. photo on news if child com,its crime)?

You don't get any permission slips with their forms.

Slightly different to OP's question but came up in a recent thread about the Southport case and photos in the media.

Commonsense22 · 27/01/2025 19:39

For those of you wondering for sports events whether small and local or international there are 2 forms of accreditation as a photographer: commercial and editorial. Commercial pictures can be sold to participants and sometimes the public and be used for advertising.

Editorial are for the press, including online publications.

In neither scenario are the athletes young or old, famous or not, entitled to any compensation. Normally as part of the waiver they sign to take part in the event, they agree to their image being used for the above purposes.

OP if such t&cs were not in your registration documents, and the club had been informed of your refusal to use images for commercial purposes, and had accepted this, then they shouldn't be used for advertising.
Your child would not be entitled to compensation even if you had given permission for the commercial use though.

Polkadotbabushka · 27/01/2025 19:40

Ferniefernfernfern · 26/01/2025 09:56

How so? They are exploiting his image for commercial gain-shouldn’t he be remunerated? Photography models are typically paid.

Really depends on the reason you want them removed! Because he wasn’t paid or because you don’t want images of your kids everywhere? Make your mind up!

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