Am I being wrong here?

[freepend]

Advice needed. Have ex partner, we split 5 years ago. He works shifts so I rarely get a week's notice in terms of when he's taking the children overnight for the following month.

I've asked him five times for what nights he can take the children in February but as of this evening he has yet to respond. We are now close to end of January and as yet I've no idea as to what is happening.

He works shifts but is on sickness absence. I have to attend the office and advise management two weeks in advance of what days I will be in. The children have play dates and parties coming up.

Very stressed out mother here 😡

I'd write to him and say that if he can't be bothered to tell you which nights then you'll go to court for a court order ensuring that he either has fixed nights or he provides sufficient notice because you will get sacked if you can't provide your work the appropriate notice around attendance.

How does his time with the children impact your time in the office? Can't you just decide that as suits you and if he then tries to arrange things that don't work for you, tell him no.