To feel lonely-please advise

[tearsandtiaras]

Ive posted before and had some great answers

Single parent here. Intense professional job, long hours. Zero support from dD's father in any capacity.
My partner of ten years cheated on me 2 years ago and left leaving me up shit creek in every way.
I have no family. Some good friends most are childless .
Dd (15) and i have picked up the pieces we are stable now. I am very poor despite being a professional due to high living costs. I am so busy running round 7 days a week when it does come to the weekend , i am alone i break down in tears as i am
Desperately lonely but by this point on a weekend i am too tired to go out

I spend weekends shopping batch cook, take DD to clubs and we exercise

Sadly when the work circus and dd circus ends there
Is nothing. I sit under a blanket on the sofa (imagining all the happy couples with their cosy twinkly lights) and cry.

I don't know how to get through that lonlineness part i can't change any of my commitments or responsibilities.

Its hard being a single parent like this working long hours

I feel like at 15 your daughter should be able to deliver herself to clubs which will give you a bit extra time. Also, why not invite your friends over for tea (wine, cocktails...) if you don't have energy to leave the house. I sometimes join my friend when she drops her kid to an evening class. We bring thermos with tea and have a natter in a car while she is waiting for her daughter. That's 1.5h of quality time with my friend and I don't care that we are just sitting in a middle of a parking lot.
And don't spend too much time imagining romcom couples. It's not the reality for most of us.

Would a career change or house move improve things? You are working long hours in a profession but are poor- this sounds really unfair on you.

OP I absolutely resonate with you. Also lone parent and professional job working long hours. Tbh I try to work one day at the weekend and arrange childcare for the youngest. I find having days off in the week much less lonely/isolating that at the weekend.
we’ve not been on holiday for years partially due to how lonely it is.
i just try my hardest to find things that I enjoy and fit them into my life. That said it doesn’t take away the pain of being alone.