Should I keep going if the physical attraction isn't there?

[Isuavagaua]

Sorry posting here for traffic

so I'm early 30's, been dating a guy for a few months so still very early days.

in most ways so far he's great. Great communication, makes me laugh, makes me feel good about myself, basically everything I'm looking for in a partner

but....I'm not super physically attracted to him. He's not awful looking but something just isn't connecting. He's a great kisser and I enjoy that, and also really good in bed (sorry tmi) so the physical aspect is there and it's good it's just when I look at him I'm just a bit like hmm I don't know if I like you

that sounds so shallow, and I know I'm certainly not perfect! Am I being silly and shallow to consider ending it with someone who otherwise ticks all my boxes?

im worried if I end things I'll regret it as otherwise he is great, but equally I don't want to feel like I've missed out on someone who is just as great but that I'm also super attracted to

any advise?

YABU

Put away the Mills & Boon

Only you can know.

Don't settle. Being attracted to someone and them being a great guy are not mutually exclusive. It's possible to get both, despite what some think. Been with DP 5 years and still get the fanny gallops, and yes he's kind to kids/animals, has manners, does house work, and is the best relationship I've ever had (including 16 year marriage).

How would you feel if he felt the same way about you? She's a great shag, lovely lass, but I don't think she's all that to look at... I'd be gutted and rather he ended it kindly and let me find someone who genuinely thought I was the full package for them - looks and personality.

My immediate thought was no as it's early days. But reading your post, I'm trying to reconcile that he's good in bed, so presumably you're sexually attracted to him, but you don't like his looks? Is he not your usual type? Personally I'd rather someone turned me on in bed than looked like my ideal man.

So he is my usual type I suppose, and I'm attracted to most of him if that makes sense?

This may be outing so we met on OLD and I did like his pictures, but in real life he has a facial piercing which I find very offputting which he didn't have in his photos and tbh I wouldn't have swiped on him if I knew he had it. the piercing isn't the only thing but it is a big one but yeah you're right there's sexual attraction there which makes it confusing

I suppose it comes down to whether the facial piercing is a dealbreaker. Though it's more confusing that he had it when you met him, but continued to see him even though you found it unattractive...? Why wasn't it a dealbreaker on your first date, so that you declined a second one?

Because we got on so well on the date like we just hit it off so well that I was hoping it was something I could learn to overlook

If the physical attraction isn't there now, can you imagine how you will feel in 5, 10, 20 years time?😦

Just be honest and tell him that the facial piercing is off putting. He will either respond in a way you hope, or not.

There's a lot to be said about finding a man who is actually good in bed. Just saying...

If the physical attraction isn't there, the fact that he knows all the right moves in bed, won't imo, compensate much.