How much time to spend together in early stages?

[IronFlame95]

3 month relationship, how much time is normal to spend together?

I’m currently in this situation, and sometimes it can be 3-4 days a week and I’m just feeling quite suffocated and overwhelmed with it but unsure if it’s normal to feel this way? If that’s a normal amount of time to spend together at this stage?

I used to see my partner on a Saturday and one evening a week at the beginning. When we started sleeping together I would stay overnight on the Saturday and leave after lunch on Sunday. We dropped the midweek at that point. After a few weeks it morphed into staying Sunday as well. Whatever works for you BOTH is what matters

Yeah, I would say it started off like that with me too, but it’s quite quickly turned into half the week… the what works for both of you… I would definitely say my partner is more clingy whereas I need that personal space to re-charge sort of thing on my own

It needs to work for you. If you're feeling suffocated, then see him/her less. There's no 'one-size fits all' approach.

Then say so. If that doesn't work for him, then he needs to move on. Clinginess is deeply unattractive. Unless you're a baby koala.

It’s been nearly a year and we’re only just at 3-4 nights a week and it’s fairly easy because we live really close by. Last weekend we spent most of the weekend together, but I know what you mean about needing time alone, particularly if you’re used to living alone. I find it hard because he’s at home all day and has more flexible work than I do so tends to do things like the food shop and gym during the day, whereas I have to cram all that in around a “9-5” job too.

We only met Saturday to Sunday or Sunday afternoon to early Monday morning and that left me the weekdays to work and do my own things alone or with my friends. I would have felt suffocated too with 3-4 days as I need my own space. I would have a chat about this as if you don't it will come between you too soon.

Yeah I think a chat is definitely needed as it’s caused a bit of a rift this morning as I’ve already seen them from Monday-Wednesday this week and then they wanted to come round again for the weekend and I’ve just had to say no and that I need this weekend for myself sort of thing - they said they would respect what I wanted but made it clear they was disappointed and then started saying they felt uncomfortable at home (loud neighbours) and needed to get out for a drive - which I think was a bit of a hint to come round but I stuck to my guns and said I would speak to them later then, have a nice drive etc

That would be way too much for me. When do you have time for other things that don't involve him? I would be fine with 1 or 2 days per week.

This is actually getting worse as they are coming over so many times because of noisy neighbour and feeling uncomfortable at home. You need to stick to your guns and get space between you two to see if it works between you naturally instead of being together all the time due to external factors.

I'd be very wary of someone who wants to get too involved too quickly. I think they can end up being controlling and jealous of you spending time with friends and family. Assert your boundaries and see how it goes - if he's sulking and upset with you for wanting to go at your own pace, it's not a healthy relationship to be in. Don't let him pressure you and don't go along with it to placate him.

That would be way too much for me as I need my own space and peace.

My last partner we saw each other at weekends - usually straight from work Friday until Sunday after lunch. That worked for us both - we had great date weekends and both had our own space.