hi all,
so I’ve just come on here because I’m quite concerned and just for anyone else’s input or advice. I’ve been with my partner for half a year now & he’s good natured. The relationship itself is good and he meets my needs. He says I meet his. Anyways, he lost his job a few months ago but he seemed ok. It started off very subtle with a few plates & wrappers but he would always clean up and be the same upbeat man.
anyways recently I’ve got concerned.
i am starting to really think he’s depressed- his flat is an absolute pigsty. There’s clothes and mess everywhere in the bedroom, filthy plates with flies and washing up left in the sink from a week back, food has gone out of date that he hasn’t organised or thrown. His whole flat is filthy to be frank and he has no intention of cleaning up. He hasn’t asked me to do it but I do it out of love but also the main reason now for my own hygiene. I clean up cutlery for myself and start on his but today I considered washing mine up and leaving him to tidy his own mess. He used to clean and take pride in his flat , but now he’s not doing anything at all. He just sleeps til the afternoon and plays video games. I am really starting to wonder if he’s depressed. He confided in me about his childhood trauma and depression and suicide plan (from ages back). I believe him when he says his family is toxic as I met his grandmother and she was vile. Smacking her dogs (WTAF!) and speaking to him like crap undermining him and insulting him. She slagged me off over text too and insulted his mother and family, she’s a nasty woman. He has been very snappy to me but I excused it because he’s under a lot of stress- he is at risk of losing his home to repossession because he was hundreds in debt. Apparently it’s being sorted with help from his mum but I am worried about him. He has friends but hardly sees them as they have their own lives and don’t really have that much time for him. He mainly speaks to me and his mother who’s quite pleasant but has her own problems. Does anyone have any advice or insight? Is he actually very depressed? I’ve done everything and told him I’m here for him but it hurts to see him this way. He’s a far cry from the man he was when we got together.
thank you