I’ve never posted on anything like this but I’m hoping that I can hear some positive outcomes for anyone that’s been in a similar situation.
firstly I’m expecting my 3rd child at age 41. My other two children age 12 and 9 are from a previous relationship which ended 8 years ago. My pregnancy was a shock but I feel I’m older and wiser and so actually feel happy. My partner, myself and my two children have lived together for 18 months and although it’s been testing it’s also been great with lots of good times.
my 12 year old has adhd and is very hyper and my partner has been really understanding and laid back about this even when times have been really tough.
so the real Issue here is actually my ex, since I’ve been pregnant he won’t communicate with me regarding collecting and dropping off the kids and only arranges through them if he can’t make a weekend or wants to turn up the next day at short notice. He’s also stopped maintenance payments and has emailed social services over absolutely nothing and didn’t even bother to answer to them when they called him back to make enquiries. So basically just being spiteful.
things at home have become a bit more hostile with the children saying certain things about me and being very off with me and my partner. All round a good environment has become a bit awkward at times with my partner also feeling very annoyed with their dad and me feeling in the middle of it all.
I just feel so sad that since my pregnancy everything seems to be going wrong. Also my kids don’t seem to like me as much and their dad has said they want to live with him although he allows them to be on phones all night doesn’t wash their clothes or really do much in terms of parental responsibility so maybe that’s why because they want an easier life. Well actually just my 12 year old not my 9 year old has expressed this only when he’s having an outburst. He has also said I’m disgusting for having another child with another man. Something that sounds like an adult would say not a 12 year old.
sorry I’ve rambled on but there is actually so much going on I feel like my head is going to explode.
im just sad that my children seem more against me when I do everything for them and its their dad being difficult not me. I’m scared to lose them and am starting to feel
low as my partner has expressed he’s not sure how much he can take as things have taken such a turn.
Any ideas on how to navigate this.. I’m not keen on going to court/mediation over access etc