A Sign he's moved on

[TwoSweetenersNoMilk]

For 14 years DH has called only me a certain pet name and also a term of endearment. He has other pet names for our 14 yo DD.

The past couple of months he has started calling her my pet names. Is this a sign that he has signed out of our relationship as the terms have widened to accomodate anyone he feels loving towards?

This is not a jealousy issue. If he started doing this when she was a toddler it would make more sense but after 14 years is weird. She doesn't know to answer him as she has only known him (except for the past couple months) to use those terms to me (not in any way inappropriate terms btw).

If my dad started calling me a term of endearment he'd exclusively used for my mum for my entire life I'd be skeeved out. It's a bit inappropriate (and no I'm not saying he's interested in her in a pervy way but it is still inappropriate).

As his wife it would also give me instant ick. Instant.

Maybe you should explain that to him.

I would find this odd too. Are you able to say more about what the pet names are? Have a chat with him, and see what he says.

What's the pet name? I would find this bizarre, not that he's calling DD a pet name just the sudden change.

Thanks for your replies.

They are totally bland pet names like 'Honey' and 'darling' but not as generic as them.

That would unnerve me, both as a partner and as a daughter, especially as she is 14 and becoming more sexually aware. I would also be watching his actions more closely such as where he is when she comes out of the shower, or is suddenly more interested in seeing her showing off new clothes, or choosing to sit near her for TV or be the one to go in to wake her up. On there own these actions can be meaningless but together they can build a massive and ugly picture.

Tell him it's inappropriate to start calling his own daughter the pet names that have been reserved for his sexual partner. Not his wife, or mother of his child, but sexual partner and see what he says.

No, that's not the issue for sure.

Rather than try to guess his mind, why not just have a conversation with him?

You are overthinking it

Because I think it's a subconscious thing where I don't figure as his "petname" anymore.

I would be more concerned that he has started calling a 14 yr old girl, the same nickname he has been using exclusively for the person who he has sex with.
Honestly it's grim !

Yeah, I'd be more concerned that he doesn't subconsciously view her as his child any more for some reason.

Son is a strapping adult of 23, and me and his dad both still call him by his kiddie nicknames (or his name, of course!). Dad called me by my childhood nicknames til he died.

Why would he change?