I broke up with my ex last year. It took me a while, he was financially difficult, and we were in a sexless, affectionless relationship. When we got together he told me about how his ex had cheated on him. What I didn't realise was she had cheated on him because he had no interest in sex at all- I am not saying she was right, but there is a reason for it.
After 18 months together sex became infrequent for us, stopping entirely at 2 years in. He then constantly made excuses, wouldn't seek help and left me thinking it was my fault.
I genuinely believe he stayed with me for just for financial reasons, I paid most of his living expenses and bills. When he finally moved out he met another woman within a few weeks. I'd never reach out and tell her all of this, and I don't want to sabotage his relationship.
But I do feel bad for her, that this is his pattern, meet a high-flying woman, behave one way in the early days to seal the deal as it were and then revert to type. I guess if he was upfront about not wanting sex or whatever then I wouldn't mind- but it is the pretending to be someone he's not.
I want to stay out of it, and I will stay out of it. I just feel so sorry for another woman going into this situation and knowing about it.
I heard all about his 'evil ex' in the early days, and fell for it hook, line and sinker. I do hope when a few months in the shine starts to wear off this for the new GF she thinks about things a little more objectively than I did.