To ask if I am overthinking… in a spiral here

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I’m a chronic overthinker and currently doing some EMDR therapy on Wednesdays- this can make Thursday a bit of a tough day for me… I was feeling really anxious at work as I thought I had overheard someone using the name of someone that I am very afraid of ( let’s just say the name is a non-contact family member)

anyhow I was upstairs at work when this happened, with a team I don’t really know very well. A male colleague walked into the room and said am I the only one who gets worried when they see themselves in the mirror on the toilet door that someone has walked in… takes me a while to realise it’s me…. I responded with ‘’oh no that happens to me, think we need to start worrying when we look and see someone else or that you’ve turned into a woman’’

My intent was absolutely not to cause offence or infer that I am transphobic in any way but I am in a spiral that it could have come across this way. It was a silly thing to have said but not meant to be hurtful, he laughed but I have never met him before and so am worried.

Thank you if you have read to the end and please let me know if you think I should try to find him tomorrow to introduce myself and apologise. Or perhaps I’m just overthinking it

You are totally overthinking this, but I do wonder if it hadn't been that remark, would you be worrying about something else instead?
Look into CBT techniques for managing worry and obsessive thoughts, they are manageable and you don't have to live with the anxiety they provoke.

Thank you my intent was really about not recognising yourself or that it actually is someone else who has walked into the toilet- single room with toilet and sink etc

I think he'd be incredibly confused and think you a weirdo if seek him out to apologise for the nothing that didnt happen.

It sounds fine to me.

It doesn't sound like he had a problem with it.

Try a few mindfulness exercises and try and get to bed early.

I do this 😂 walk out of a room I've just had a right laugh in and think what I said was stupid . It's just what I'm like I tell myself to shut up now xxx