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Kids friendships and schools

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worriedmum8686 · 23/01/2025 12:56

My DS is 11 last year in primary school. He had the same group of mates from p2 but at the start of this year he left that group - there was tension between him and another boy in the group and they clashed a lot. They all still talk no bad feeling but no more play dates etc. My son then buddied up with a few other boys in the class in particular 'James'. They always had a great laugh meeting up outside school and online gaming there was four of them in this group.

During the Christmas holidays two other boys from the class joined this group and James is getting on very different with my son- there's an air of awkwardness now and my son doesn't understand why. Anyway they have to choose their high school. I really wanted my son to have a fresh start for high school but he is adamant that he wants to go to the local one where all his primary school friends are going. I am just worried James is going to ice my son out of the full friendship circle as his behaviour has been very quick to turn cold. The distance of both schools are the same and both are very good schools. I know in high school they will more than likely not stay friends but my son can take a good while to settle and feel confident Im worried if there is any friction from primary it will affect him.

Would you make the school choice and go to one where he knows no one or go to one where there will be some mates. Maybe I am just over worrying because this is all new to me he is my eldest.

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Oddsocksanduglyshoes · 23/01/2025 12:59

At this age I would listen to him. If the different school doesn’t work out this will strain your relationship. Tell him your opinion talk it out weighing up pros and cons then tell him you’ll support him and help him to be happy and succeed whatever he chooses.

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