I'm pregnant with DC2 and we are buying mostly second hand this time around (buying new carseat and mattress). A close family member found a cot for sale local to her on Facebook marketplace and asked if we wanted her to collect it for us and id send the money. We said yes and I paid her after she had confirmed collection. Only after she bought it did she tell us it had "a little bit of mould but when you get it you can wipe it down". We were instantly concerned but agreed to wait and see ourselves.
Sadly, it was not a little bit of mould, every piece had mould on it, there was mouldy food on some of the bars that hadn't been cleaned off before previous owners stored it, there was mould in all the crevices and we were concerned it had seeped into the wood. DH and I decided that we weren't willing to risk baby's health and we would just dispose of it. It also came with a mattress but we wouldn't ever consider using a used mattress, especially not one that's been stored up against a mould-covered cot.
This didn't go down well with family member and they called us picky and told us to just wipe the cot down and as long as the mould didn't grow back then it's fine. She also claimed all we needed was a mattress protector. We made it very clear that we werent willing to take the risk but she acted as if we were being very over the top about it. A second family member then implied we should've sold the cot on but surely that would be wrong?
Are we being too picky? Also should we have sold it on instead of taking it to the tip? (and yes I'm peed off that I essentially paid money to take somebody else's mouldy cot to the tip)