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How to deal with overbearing mother

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mickey54 · 22/01/2025 21:48

hi all hoping someone can help me deal with this situation that is causing me a lot of stress and anxiety. I have not been particularly close to DM as she was not a good mother growing up and when my parents split I lived with my dad. She really has done some awful things over the years to me and DS (emotional type) however I have had her in my life after having kids she has been ok for the most part.i tolerate her for their sake.
However she is constantly texting me every day of my life, with ton of mundane questions. Trying to find out what I’m doing and up too and feels like she is in my life every day when quite frankly I don’t want it. If I don’t respond she gets funny.
she has set me off again now texting she is causing me so much anxiety with all constant texts I. Can’t get away from.
if I don’t reply she is funny about.
if I were to say anything she would be really nasty and likely not to speak to me.
i only really see her for my kids sake as all other grandparents passed. They are 14. But to be honest they are not fussed by her.
I can’t believe I don’t know how to deal with her I personally would block her but DH thinks this is not the answer but he doesn’t have to deal with it.
Help !

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Eyesopenwideawake · 22/01/2025 21:57

Not your husband's decision - if you want to block, block. If he wants to maintain an independent relationship with his MIL tell him to crack on.

If you don't want to take that step right now (it will always be an option) repeat this mantra until you believe it; I am an adult now and she can't hurt me anymore so I will control the level of communication between us. If she doesn't like it, it's not my problem.

mickey54 · 22/01/2025 22:01

@Eyesopenwideawake agree totally grown A** woman really don’t need this all the time !
good suggestion.

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