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Why forward an email

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HappyRobin · 22/01/2025 21:02

I have just found out that my boyfriend has sent his ex after 3 years an email regarding warranty! WHY! After three years….. she will not talk to him or entertain him so why would he forward her an email about something that doesn’t even matter? I would have just deleted it if it was an email about my ex!
I only found out as she sent him a message back saying don’t contact her!

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Namechange4840 · 22/01/2025 22:40

Seems to me like he was hoping to open up communication. I doubt she really needed the warranty info 3 years later she may not even still have the item! After 3 years leave them to it if they want to insure there products or seek out home insurance or have queries about warranty let them come to you and ask you never just seek out your ex and tell them this stuff unless approached even at that I would find it weird

UnicornWorld · 22/01/2025 22:41

Marble10 · 22/01/2025 22:40

I'd take it as a desperate attempt to regain contact. Or atleast dip his toes in to see if she will reply.
It really is going out of his way to do that IMO.
My ex wouldn't dream of forwarding me anything even if it was relevant, he'd just skip over it and delete. Same as my current partner to his ex. Unless I'm just with inattentive men 🤷‍♀️

Please don't encourage Op who is already showing controlling behaviour

TheseCalmSeas · 22/01/2025 22:54

Eek what a toxic relationship

Princessconsuelabananahammock9 · 22/01/2025 22:55

Her reaction seems extreme.

I'd want the backstory on that.

Endofyear · 23/01/2025 00:12

Why are you reading his messages?

JoannaGroats · 23/01/2025 01:10

UnicornWorld · 22/01/2025 22:34

I have my own theory on why this girl doesn't want to be anywhere near OPs bf.

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Congratulations.

username299 · 23/01/2025 01:45

I'd dump someone for reading my emails.

Meadowfinch · 23/01/2025 02:05

Notmycircusnotmyotter · 22/01/2025 21:51

I don't understand the angst. What's the background here? Does it matter if he emails a warranty? If I received an email about something an ex owns I would forward it.

This. There are issues with some appliances that cause house fires.

I dislike my ex intensely but he's not the only person who sleeps in his house. If a recall notice arrived, I'd forward it on, because it is the decent mature thing to do.

I can't understand what you are making a fuss about. He didn't write her a poem, he just hit Forward.

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HappyRobin · 23/01/2025 09:21

UnicornWorld · 22/01/2025 22:18

Why are you reading his messages? Do you question his evrry move as intensely as you do on here?

Sorry OP but he needs to run. Fast.

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i don’t read his messages - we were sorting out our car insurance and the message from her came down, he wouldn’t have even told me if I hadn’t seen it flash up on his screen

he can run if he wants to, I don’t need a man that goes behind my back and contact his ex!

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AlisonDonut · 23/01/2025 09:30

All this over him doing her a favour by forwarding a warranty?

Crikey.

Starlight1984 · 23/01/2025 09:54

Greyish2025 · 22/01/2025 21:34

Dump him, he was obviously just using it as a way to make some contact with her in the hope she would strike up a conversation with him which could then possibly have gone further
He is looking to cheat on you

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I can't tell whether you're being sarcastic or not...

But if not, is it not a bit extreme to end a 3 year relationship because he forwarded a warranty email to an ex?!😂

I text my ex the other day as a letter came to the house addressed to him and it looked important so was asking if he wanted me to open it or post it to him.

I hope my husband doesn't leave me over it.... 🤔

Starlight1984 · 23/01/2025 10:01

KrisAkabusi · 22/01/2025 22:30

Absolutely batshit! I can't think of anything less likely to be a sign of cheating than an email about a warranty.

Especially the poster who said he's clearly using it as a way to get back with his ex 😂

KrisAkabusi · 23/01/2025 10:11

I don’t need a man that goes behind my back and contact his ex!

He didn't go behind your back, he forwarded an email about a household appliance, an action so inconsequential he probably didn't give it a second's thought!

The only way he could have gone behind your back was if you gave him orders to tell you every single time they had the slightest interaction, which is a whole different issue.

ColinOfficeTrolley · 23/01/2025 10:17

UnicornWorld · 22/01/2025 22:18

Maybe she doesn't want to speak to him, maybe she's moved on, or maybe she's aware that OP is on the case! Your reaction is a bit odd.

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If someone had moved on, surely you would just roll your eyes, block and delete.

The response from the ex is extreme. She's took time to tell him to leaver her alone.

Other people on the thread have said similar, so they must all be odd too 😂

Artesia · 23/01/2025 13:34

Did he add a message along the lines of "Dear Ex, the warranty on the washing machine is nearly expired. Phwoar, remember when we used to shag on top of it during a vigorous spin cycle? Fancy doing it again while we're still within the three year repair guarantee?"?

Cos if not I can't see the issue.

Nonaynevernomore · 23/01/2025 13:48

HappyRobin · 23/01/2025 09:21

i don’t read his messages - we were sorting out our car insurance and the message from her came down, he wouldn’t have even told me if I hadn’t seen it flash up on his screen

he can run if he wants to, I don’t need a man that goes behind my back and contact his ex!

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How to tell us your totally paranoid, jealous and insecure without telling us.

Or there is going to be a massive drip feed that six months ago he contacted regarding the warranty on the oven, they got talking, met up and she ended up with a bun in that oven.

UnicornWorld · 24/01/2025 00:02

HappyRobin · 23/01/2025 09:21

i don’t read his messages - we were sorting out our car insurance and the message from her came down, he wouldn’t have even told me if I hadn’t seen it flash up on his screen

he can run if he wants to, I don’t need a man that goes behind my back and contact his ex!

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Your language is all very controlling though. He didn't go behind your back, he sent an email, he is allowed to do that

And I don't believe for one second that's the first message of his you've read.

UnicornWorld · 24/01/2025 00:03

ColinOfficeTrolley · 23/01/2025 10:17

If someone had moved on, surely you would just roll your eyes, block and delete.

The response from the ex is extreme. She's took time to tell him to leaver her alone.

Other people on the thread have said similar, so they must all be odd too 😂

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It is extreme, but I don't think that's surprising given the hassle it causes with OP. I doubt this is her first rodeo.

JoannaGroats · 24/01/2025 13:23

i don’t read his messages - we were sorting out our car insurance and the message from her came down, he wouldn’t have even told me if I hadn’t seen it flash up on his screen

It's amazing how often this seems to happen on MN…

UnicornWorld · 24/01/2025 18:59

JoannaGroats · 24/01/2025 13:23

i don’t read his messages - we were sorting out our car insurance and the message from her came down, he wouldn’t have even told me if I hadn’t seen it flash up on his screen

It's amazing how often this seems to happen on MN…

Quite

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