Good evening
My husband walked out on me at the weekend and we are seperating after both being unhappy for many years. we currently live in a very expensive area of London so moving into 2 seperate homes where we currently live isn't affordable for either of us. we have a DC in reception. We are hoping to remortgage our current home to buy a second home for myself and DC which will be made up of money from remortgaging and my savings, and ex H will stay in our current home (which was his before I met him)
My ex H preferably wants me to move close to his family as its closer to London for him to visit out DC as he wants access every weekend.
I in absolutely no way shape or form want to stop my ex H from seeing our DC, however I would like to move to where my support network and home is which is 90 miles from where we currently are. Ex H has said he wont stop me doing this but he wants access every weekend...I said im happy for him to have DC overnight every other weekend and come and visit (visa versa) on the weekend he isnt having DC over night but he isn't happy with this. I just don't think its fair for DC to be travelling this far EVERY weekend for a sleepover with ex H.
Am I being selfish for wanting to move to my support network? properties are also an awful lot cheaper in my hometown than his familys hometown. I just can't picture being in his hometown relying on his family for support and not my own.
I dont know if im being selfish. I didn't want us to seperate as I didn't want this situation to happen, I of course dont want DC to be apart from their dad and if needs be i will move to where my ex H wants me to go - but of course I would rather be around my support network
Please be kind - im feeling very confused.