Do you think I am being unreasonable?
My husband's parents live overseas and every summer I hate going to their house. They are ok people, but not the most friendly or interested when it comes to ask me how my job is going, or to congratulate me on my work promotion. It has always been that their kids' jobs are the best and the other two daughters in laws, talking about how rich their families are etc.
On top of this, their house is a massive dump. They have food that is past the expiry date for a good few years and even if I wanted to stock the fridge with fresh food I cannot as there is not a single space. To make things even worse, there is no shower so we need to shower outside with a hosepipe with cold water. Yes, the weather is hot outside, but having to shower every day with cold water is not ideal. We have to be around his parents 24/7 and even if we went out in the village for dinner, the parents would turn up.
If I wanted to shower my 1 year old, I would need to drag big pots around to warm up water to bathe my baby and the parents do not see anything wrong with this. Apparently this is how they raised their kids, so it's normal.
I said to my husband that I can compromise to go there in the summer, but as long as he arranges a different accommodation for us so we can stay in a hotel as I cannot keep doing it anymore. They have the problem that I am a tidy person, not OCD and they are moaning constantly that I am obsessed with cleaning etc.