If there’s a sickness bug going around your child’s class…

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And they’re complaining of a tummy ache/feeling sick, AIBU to say you should keep them at home?

@Taigabread and FYI I was a child who had persistent tummy aches, was told it’s my periods, it’s anxiety, is she being bullied? I had coeliac disease! Took 2 years to diagnosed and a few days after I stopped gluten I was cured. It’s worth listening to kids.

Did you miss a lot of school? You’ll see I have referenced ONE child and one parents, not multiple.

Just because a symptom can rarely be something more serious doesn't mean we have to take it seriously every single time.
Generally when kids have coeliac they have more symptoms than just a tummy ache and the issue is ongoing therefore gets investigated.
When my kids has a tummy ache I'm not about to automatically dramatically assume they may have coeliac disease.

No, I have an 11 year old who ‘feels sick’ whenever he cba doing something/going somewhere and there is always something going around at school.

The irony is that whenever he is actually sick it always happens at random and he never mentions feeling ill beforehand.

Op being kind your children are quite young. It’s much harder with older children to see if you’re having the wool pulled over your eyes or they’re generally unwell.
Yes you should listen to your children but equally parents will know their children too. You might be unaware that this child you’ve overheard has been saying this every day since September. Or they are unwell and parents are chancing it. Just try not to judge your kids against others. ‘Oh well my kid doesn’t do that so no other kids do’ will get you nowhere.

I think I agree with those who have suggested it is child-dependent. It's very difficult to know what to do for the best with them some days, particularly if you have a child who always complains of feeling unwell.

That said, there was a Dad in one of my DC's primary classes who would send his DC in no matter what. I was in the office one morning and one of his DC was with a TA being sick into a bucket. The children were still on the playground waiting to come in! Dad had dumped her and switched his phone off. Poor girl was saying "you have to call my Grandmother".

I could give you plenty more examples, but that was the worst!

I have not suggested that. I have suggested that a child who looks and feels unwell should be kept home. I am not suggesting that a child who is otherwise well and complains of a tummy bug on a daily basis should be off.

My friend dropped her child off at school and he was sick in reception, she said “he’ll be fine” turned on her heel and left. She too turned her phone off. But going by this thread you’d think every child is lying!

I can accept it’s child dependent. It seemed to me that the child was unwell and shouldn’t have been in school.

DS was marked "unauthorised" for being kept off for 48 hours for vomiting 3x in a morning.

We'd so inconsiderately used up good will with his chronic health condition flaring up (999 from school) and emergency surgery a month later.

Generally if they're a bit sub-par they go in. They get headaches and inconsequential tummy aches quite often, usually through feeling stressed. DS2 vomits about once a year, DS1 has vomited about 3x in total in 14 years. Actual vomiting, looking grey or stuffed to the gills with snot and they are kept off.

I think you'll soon get to know the parents who made a one off misjudgment versus those who are just cheeky fuckers. Did she leave him whilst he was actually being sick? That's awful!

My DD said the same thing on Friday. I kept her off and she made a remarkable recovery 🤔

Yeah mine was at home 1 day last Oct with this, started feeling ill Saturday and was still not great on the Monday so i kept her home, no sickness but had tummy ache and felt sick and very tired, she slept most of Saturday/Sunday and the Monday morning plus didn't eat, a sure sign she's unwell.
Got the same thing just over a week ago, again weekend was lost as she slept through it but she was better by the Monday, was prepared to keep her home if needed though, unfortunately i got it but stayed away from the office and worked from home.
Seems it's gone through her class too.

I think when they are quite little you err on the side of caution. Then as they get older you harden up especially after the odd miraculous recovery. Generally after 10 they’d have to be properly ill to be off school. My kids are 9,12 and 14.

I was once in our school office in the morning and a dad came in (not sure why he did this in person and not over the phone but anyway) and said "X wont be in today. He was sick a few times overnight, and we thought he'd be ok, but then he was sick again at breakfast so we thought best to keep him off"

Selfish prick. He was going to send his child who'd been up vomiting in the night in to school. Not fair on the other kids and teachers (who'd end up dealing with a vomiting child) let alone his child who must have felt like shit!

Yes he was sick as she was taking him in - the school set up was you walked in through reception. She was outraged he was sent home.

That's crazy!

We have been told we must send them in!if they are sick they will send them home,the school system is archaic,it’s only in England we get penalised.

Just saying they feel sick as in title - go in
Looking and feeling unwell - stay home

I do wonder how fast she must have turned and ran. I think the receptionists must have been in shock.

Dd1 I may have considered keeping off. She doesn't make a fuss so when she says she is unwell she usually is.

Dd2 had headaches, back aches, sore ankle, legs and knees and a sore tummy on rotation over the week. Often followed by her doing several cartwheels, or diving on the sofa. These things stopped briefly after a day at home with dp that was particularly boring (limited tv or devices). I would need evidence of vomit or visible physical illness for her to stay off.

I wonder why schools have such low attendance going by the replies on this thread. I am a more liberal one judging by the responses and my child has excellent attendance…

Yours not really of an age to be bullshitting about being ill yet then. It sometimes comes on as they get older! I have one who'd always tell the truth about that kind of thing and another inveterate bullshitter.

So she sent him in actually vomiting ?

Yes that child should have been kept home.