To expect a bit more help?

[Breeeze]

So my ex and I split up around 7 months ago. The children go to his every Sunday night and come back Monday but I feel like because I work those days I’m not really seeing the benefit. I can take them and pick them up from school on the Monday and they won’t need to go to breakfast/after school clubs. I have suggested he has them every other weekend and he has told me he will think about it as I don’t call the shots. I have a really good feeling he isn’t going to do it as he has commitments/season tickets new girlfriend etc but why should I not get any free time?

There is no reason you shouldn’t both have free time OP it is unfair, but unfortunately he doesn’t have to agree and no court could or would ever force him. It does make things rubbish for you though.

It’s like he doesn’t want me to have a life. Really selfish

Can you get someone to babysit sometimes so you can go out with friends or do something?

do you work five days a week?

So he takes your child Sunday night and brings them to school Monday morning? When does he actually spend any time with them?
Yes it shouldn’t all be on your terms, and yes you can’t make him take them more. But he doesn’t call the shots either. Tell him Sunday night no longer suits, he can have them Friday night, Saturday night or every other weekend. Or you will negotiate something else. No judge is going to insist you give them a Sunday night either!

He picks them up on a Sunday morning and takes them to school, picks them up and I give them their tea. It’s bloody pointless

I work 3 days (if I went back full time I would struggle with holiday clubs etc and it just wouldn’t be worth it)

If you only work 3 days a week and your child is at school, surely you get free time on the days you are not working?

Well yes, I go to the gym etc but my friends are only free weekends so it’s a struggle

So you do get free time, if you're not working at least 3 days that your children are at school?