Would love to hear some body-confident responses to this!
I'm 43F and my weight has always been an issue. At most, 20st, size 22, at best 10.5st, size 10.
Currently around 12st, size 14 ish.
Anyway, the upshot of excess weight, dieting, rapid loss, yo-yo'ing etc., means that although I look ok (even pretty good if I try!) when clothed, my naked self is a mess.
Wobbly all over, chunky thighs, saggy boobs, horrid overhanging belly... You get the idea 🤦🏻♀️
Externally, I come across as confident and self-assured but in a clothes-off situation, I'm horribly self-conscious
I'm currently seeing a guy a fair bit younger than me. He's fit, toned etc. (I know, I can't believe it either)
Every indication is that he is attracted to me, likes my body etc. but... I just don't see how he can be!
It might be a terrible thing to say, but I don't think I would be physically attracted to a man who was in an equal shape to me. Although that's not necessarily that case, I just haven't been faced with that situation.
I love sex and being intimate but with lights on, or in harsh daylight, or getting into an unflattering position, I feel really awkward and self conscious and basically, like a great hulking heffalump.
This surely can't be an unreasonable way to feel, in spite of partner apparently not feeling that way?
What can I do to come around to a man's way of thinking? As in, Naked Woman = V Good Thing