To ask how long it took you to get over a divorce

[Charlen]

Do you regret the divorce, are you much happier now? How is your ex husband doing?

It’s all still very raw for me, even though it was my decision it still hurts like hell.

Also, why did you end up divorcing in the end? My ex H was so lazy and opted out of family life from the beginning. I don’t think he could handle the responsibility of being a father. Ironically his new partner has kids too.

My divorce was hideous - ex made it as difficult as possible. I wanted out (I had v good reasons - police were involved) - but he insisted that I should let him divorce me. I didn’t care, but it allowed him to drag his feet and keep taking it back to court - it cost an absolute fortune, and was horrible. But there really is life after divorce - I subsequently (after kissing a few frogs) met the man who is now my DH - we’ve been together over twenty years, and every day I’m just so happy I’m with him and not with my ex. Of course there was a ghastly bit in the middle between deciding to divorce and coming out on the other side, and there is a huge sadness in losing that shared past, but I know I am so much better off without him. I do feel for my children - I never thought I would get divorced, and didn’t want them to come from a broken home - but I absolutely could not have stayed married to my ex. I can’t think you walked away from your marriage lightly, OP, and it is very difficult, but there is light at the end of the tunnel.

I divorced when my husband cheated on me. It felt very out of the blue. I thought we were happy. 16 years of marriage, It was incredibly hard to get over for about six months. Tough with significant downs for the next six months. Followed by 18 months of amazing growth and exploration, rediscovering myself, reinventing who I would be, enjoying being free.

Then met an incredible man, who is a massive upgrade in my eyes. Treats me incredibly well. Sex off the charts wonderful. We've both now reinvented our careers and are doing exciting things.

I am so so happy that I went through what I did, and proud to have turned it all around. Moved from an average relationship with a deep down selfish man and a suppressed version of myself, to a wiser, fitter more joyous me with a gorgeous, special man who adores me. Thank God Ex had the affair!

Good luck!

Didn't need to recover i skipped out of there

I love this. Esp for me now. I need positive stories

About 25 seconds to be honest.

He'd been shagging his way around the middle east on work trips. One of the women emailed me to tell me. I emailed her back and said she was welcome to him. I will never fight over any man.

I told him I wanted to divorce, he said he would fight me for everything and didn't want to be blamed.

I said okay, say it was me then, I cheated, divorce me and take everything I don't care. So he did.

He got to keep his ego, and the worst thing was, our son wasn't even mentioned by him. All he cared about was the money.

There was nothing said about custody. Ds just moved out with me and ex h came to see him when he was in the country.

We actually had a quick, cheap divorce- I didn't have a solicitor, I just signed some bits of paper one day. he could have the lot, I didn't care about the house or any money (he was a gambler and a control freak so I don't even think there was that much). I just cared about my son and my own peace.

I couldn't give a shit that there is a bit of paper in my loft somewhere saying I'm an adulterer.