Do you treat your children fairly / are you treat fairly?

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I saw a post yesterday where the DD was treat horribly compared to the DS. It’s got me thinking and wondering, particularly in relation to finances.

My parents treat both me and my sister very fairly. Parents aren’t rich but always made sure we never went without and gave us as much as they could - for example; she got a small house deposit, I got a small house deposit; she got a contribution to her wedding, I got a similar contribution (taking into consideration they were 15 years apart!).

My DH’s parents treat his siblings very differently and are pretty open about it. There are a couple of sons and 1 DD. SIL had full wedding paid for, we got a small contribution (£500). We once asked them to guarantor a rental property for us and they said no (we aren’t financially irresponsible, FIL is just very risk adverse with his money). We had a LO fairly recently and got token gifts. SIL is expecting and they’ve made no secret of the fact she will be getting more.

I’d be lying if I said it didn’t bother me at all, but we do ok financially and don’t need there support - although it wouldn’t go amiss! My main issue is it’s just so at odds with the way I was brought up and I just don’t get it, if you know what I mean. If it was my family I’d ask the question but it’s not and they’re not the talking type!

If you are a parent who treats your children differently, why? What’s your reasoning and how do your other children feel about it?

If you are a child who is treat differently - talk to me! How does it make you feel? Are you cool with it or resentful?

We treat both of our children fairly but they're only 3 and 6.
Both me and DH are treated differently by our parents - in my family me and my mam are extremely close and spend lots of time together/lots of days out - I offer, my sister doesn't but we're both just very different people. Also my children are a lot younger and she does 1 day a week childcare for DD (did this for my nephews when they were younger) .
My children are extremely lucky that my mam pays for lots of lovely days out for them over the summer holidays, my sister and her family are much better off financially than us and I see it as she just wants to make it more equal so that all grandchildren have/get the same.
The opposite in DHs family - we are financially better off than his sister and family, we're very very lucky and grateful that his parents also give us one day childcare a week but then do more in terms of trips/holidays and days out with his sister but they need the support and we don't. Plus DMIL is very close to her daughter the same way I am with mine. Everyone mostly gets on and is happy, and I think everyone appreciates that all the parents just try to support each child in the individual way they need it.