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Nursery/Pre-school temperature - illness policy?

109 replies

Porgs2 · 19/01/2025 20:45

Not really an AIBU. Do the ones you use specify a temperature at which the child will be sent home? Children aged two to four. Thanks 🙏

OP posts:
Sushu · 19/01/2025 22:44

SMaCM · 19/01/2025 22:29

Ear temp of 37.8 and my mindees go home. By the time parents arrive it’s usually over or around 38. At 39 my daughter was fitting and practically unconscious.

Most children spike 39 degree fevers and are absolutely fine. It sounds unfortunate and unusual that your daughter had a seizure. Not saying they should be in childcare with a temp of 39 but it’s often part and parcel of a normal viral infection in a small child.

Notgivenuphope · 19/01/2025 22:49

User457788 · 19/01/2025 21:11

Yeah course I would. Kids get temps with a cold even, whats the issue? Have you had/got little kids? A temperature is not always a bad thing - it's your bodys way of fighting stuff off - its a good thing sometimes particularly if they're well in themselves.

Or teething

Megirlan123 · 19/01/2025 22:52

User457788 · 19/01/2025 21:11

Yeah course I would. Kids get temps with a cold even, whats the issue? Have you had/got little kids? A temperature is not always a bad thing - it's your bodys way of fighting stuff off - its a good thing sometimes particularly if they're well in themselves.

Oh my god. This is a wind up , surely??

BackAgainSlimLady · 19/01/2025 22:56

User457788 · 19/01/2025 20:59

All you can do is smash some calpol and nurofen into them just before drop off and hope you might be able to do some work before they call you just after lunch to pick up your little one if the temp spikes.

This is shitty advice. Why risk getting other people sick?.. more so.. why send your child to nursery when they have a fever anyway.

you’re comment really says a lot about the type of parent you are a shit one

SweedieLie · 19/01/2025 23:05

I've reported everyone calling me a liar - I am not a liar - UTIs are notorious for really high temps

Liar/fantasist. One of the two.

Give it up. No one believes you, no matter how hard you stamp your feet.

jannier · 19/01/2025 23:06

User457788 · 19/01/2025 21:12

Why wouldn't they be able to get hold of us? My phone is either in my hand or on my desk in front of me on loud all day long,, same with my husband whose number they also have? Why would they 'blue light' a child to hospital with just a temperature 😄 mumsnet is so hysterical sometimes.

You obviously have been lucky enough never to have had a child go into febrile convulsions when the temperature that's been masked suddenly shoots up once the meds wear off....or the parents who can't answer because they are busy...
And you don't care about passing on any infections.
NHS advice is to keep children at home if they have temperatures over 38....and that doesn't mean after Calpol.....poor kids who's parents don't put them first.

Elisabeth3468 · 19/01/2025 23:06

Not sure on my nursery policy but pretty sure they'd phone me straight away if my son had a temp. He come down with an illness last Friday and had a temp for 4 days. I didn't send him to nursery all week to recover.
People just send their kids in poorly that's why so much circulates.

jannier · 19/01/2025 23:09

NHS advice....temp over 38 keep them home.

Nursery/Pre-school temperature - illness policy?
Nursery/Pre-school temperature - illness policy?
Porgs2 · 19/01/2025 23:13

Elisabeth3468 · 19/01/2025 23:06

Not sure on my nursery policy but pretty sure they'd phone me straight away if my son had a temp. He come down with an illness last Friday and had a temp for 4 days. I didn't send him to nursery all week to recover.
People just send their kids in poorly that's why so much circulates.

They do. It’s really frustrating as a worker. What goes through my mind is a) the poor child is unwell and it’s not fair for them that they’ve been brought in, b) all the other children are now at risk of whatever it is, c) us staff are also at risk and feel as though we aren’t valued! We actually had to close once because too many of the staff were ill, it didn’t go down well.

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Tumbleweed101 · 19/01/2025 23:17

We usually call a parent if a temp is over 38C. We will give calpol with parent permission at this temp upwards to help keep child stabilised and reduce any risk of convulsions etc while waiting for parent to arrive. At this temp most children are showing signs they’re not right.

We say that if a child needs calpol then they should be home unless it’s to help the tail end of a known illness that’s being treated with antibiotics such as an ear infection. Lots of parents ignore this and the whole roomful of children and staff get poorly.

2chocolateoranges · 19/01/2025 23:18

Porgs2 · 19/01/2025 21:07

They are and as a practitioner this is something that really annoys us. It’s not fair on the child, the other kids or us!

You can always tell the children who had calpol at 8am because they usually start to wilt in nursery around about 11-11.30am.

we phone for a child to be collected if their temperature is 38, this has been the procedure in all 3 nurseries I’ve worked in.

we also phone home to make parents aware if their child doesn’t have a temperature but isn’t their usual self. Eg lethargic, emotional, not joining in usual activities, not eating.

jannier · 19/01/2025 23:20

User457788 · 19/01/2025 22:24

I've reported everyone calling me a liar - I am not a liar - UTIs are notorious for really high temps. I havent googled but I now understand why 111 had an ambulance with us within 3 minutes the first time she had a UTI. She was happy and playing but was hot which is why we checked her temp and 111 asked us to repeat it and then immediately dispatched an ambulance - the paramedics were shocked that she was happy and awake and blue lighted her in where they put her straight on antibiotics, and fluids, sat her on my lap with a bowl under to catch a wee sample and then told us we were lucky as quite soon after she probably would have crashed out. Second time I knew it was likely a UTI once her temp went over 40 and took her straight to children's a&e with a wee sample and they confirmed another UTI - again her temp spiked. I'm not sure why you're all saying I'm lying - clearly we're lucky and Google isn't able to answer a question for every single member of every population. You're all sick a twisted to be saying things like 'your daughter should be dead' etc.

So you now take your child to A&E not nursery.

jannier · 19/01/2025 23:22

2chocolateoranges · 19/01/2025 23:18

You can always tell the children who had calpol at 8am because they usually start to wilt in nursery around about 11-11.30am.

we phone for a child to be collected if their temperature is 38, this has been the procedure in all 3 nurseries I’ve worked in.

we also phone home to make parents aware if their child doesn’t have a temperature but isn’t their usual self. Eg lethargic, emotional, not joining in usual activities, not eating.

11am Itis ...so common

OdeToBarney · 19/01/2025 23:23

Ours send the kids home if temp is over 38. If they're even slightly out of sorts they're hovering with the thermometer. I do understand infection control, but they were adamant DD was poorly the Friday before last because she was a bit clingy and had red cheeks. There were different staff in the room, a new child, and the recent cold weather has made her skin sore. She was fine. This Friday, when she was actually coming down with a cold (which was not at all apparent on Friday morning) nothing was mentioned 🤷‍♀️ she's snotty, but no temp and eating and drinking fine, so she'll be off to nursery in the morning.

jannier · 20/01/2025 00:04

OdeToBarney · 19/01/2025 23:23

Ours send the kids home if temp is over 38. If they're even slightly out of sorts they're hovering with the thermometer. I do understand infection control, but they were adamant DD was poorly the Friday before last because she was a bit clingy and had red cheeks. There were different staff in the room, a new child, and the recent cold weather has made her skin sore. She was fine. This Friday, when she was actually coming down with a cold (which was not at all apparent on Friday morning) nothing was mentioned 🤷‍♀️ she's snotty, but no temp and eating and drinking fine, so she'll be off to nursery in the morning.

Nobody is suggesting a child with a cold can't go to nursery.

jannier · 20/01/2025 07:06

Piccalow · 19/01/2025 21:13

Give them repeated newsletters then crack on with testing temperatures at the door if it persists.

Unfortunately they mask the temperature with Calpol leaving the child to get ill around 11 by which time the bug has been passed to all the others and the staff. The parents then typically take an hour or two to arrive leaving lo suffering.

ScaryM0nster · 20/01/2025 07:14

Ours say can’t attend if temp over 38. They’re very realistic and take mild lurgies. The not spreading germs idea is a lovely concept, but realistically by the time the symptoms are showing the spreading has happened. So on that front it really makes no difference.

No calpol if going to nursery, unless it’s for teething pain and they’re pretty fussy on that (fair).

Any other medication needs to have going for at least 24 hours before return to nursery and child well in themselves.

2 loose nappies and they’re off for 48 hours.

daffodilandtulip · 20/01/2025 07:21

Notgivenuphope · 19/01/2025 22:49

Or teething

I catch teething most weekends, from children who definitely are fine in themselves and haven’t had calpol.

OdeToBarney · 20/01/2025 08:28

@jannier I didn't say they were.

jannier · 20/01/2025 08:43

daffodilandtulip · 20/01/2025 07:21

I catch teething most weekends, from children who definitely are fine in themselves and haven’t had calpol.

😂😂😂 amazingly I've been teething 30 years...the list of symptoms is growing too.

jannier · 20/01/2025 08:45

OdeToBarney · 20/01/2025 08:28

@jannier I didn't say they were.

So why would they say anything about a cold if she was fine you seemed confused about why they watch out if a child is out of character clingy and red faced they watch but a normally playing snotty child is fine.

Tootiredmummyof3 · 20/01/2025 08:49

User457788 · 19/01/2025 20:59

All you can do is smash some calpol and nurofen into them just before drop off and hope you might be able to do some work before they call you just after lunch to pick up your little one if the temp spikes.

And hopefully let your child pass their illness on to all the other children and staff.

OdeToBarney · 20/01/2025 08:55

@jannier I'm not confused about anything. I was just pointing out the irony of the fact the day she was fine, they thought she was ill. But the day she was under the weather, it was barely mentioned. Why are you spoiling for an argument?

Worriednanof1 · 20/01/2025 09:31

User457788 · 19/01/2025 20:59

All you can do is smash some calpol and nurofen into them just before drop off and hope you might be able to do some work before they call you just after lunch to pick up your little one if the temp spikes.

And that ensures everyone else, including staff, catches it too.

Worriednanof1 · 20/01/2025 12:11

Tootiredmummyof3 · 20/01/2025 08:49

And hopefully let your child pass their illness on to all the other children and staff.

Then be the first to complain if your child can't attend due to lack of staff because they are all ill. So so selfish.