A month ago I asked my partner (not living together) if he wanted to go to America on holiday with me and the kids. He said yes. I asked him again if he was sure and told him I needed to book asap to get the good price, he again said "yes".
I asked him a final time by text message if he was absolutely, 100% sure and again he said "yes".
So I booked a £3k holiday. Later that night he decided to tell me he couldn't go afterall I was fuming as this meant I personally was liable to pay a £800 deposit within 8 weeks whether it was cancelled or not. I panicked like mad because I just couldn't afford to do that. I told him he'd dropped me in the shit and he reluctantly agreed to pay half of the deposit.
He was still saying he couldn't go.
Before he paid his half of it I asked someone else if they'd like to take his place, they said they would if they could get the holiday off work. Anyway I didn't say anything to partner incase this other person couldn't come. Anyway it turned out she could and my partner had already paid his half of the deposit.
This other person is really looking foward to going now but now partner has decided "actually, I might come afterall" I told him he can't now, he messed me around too much and I had to make alternative arrangements. He's fuming and has said I decieved him to get me to pay half of the deposit. Even though I have said he will get it back now that I have a replacement.
I admit I could have told him before he paid the deposit but I knew he wouldn't pay it if I did and if this other person couldn't go I would have been left with the £800 bill.
So am I being unreasonable to think he has messed me around and its his own fault?