People who look down/think they’re better than others?

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Me and DH have had a niggling feeling that BIL turns his nose up at DH’s side of the family a bit

His wife is from a different part so they moved there and it is a quieter more rural nicer area! I do agree. I want to move to more rural place but not to be far from family

but back to it, BIL makes so many comments. Constantly asks about our kids what they’re doing do they like this do they do this xyz it’s a bit like wow calm down! Aha. He doesn’t see them often he doesn’t present as an uncle really

He said today an area by us was ‘rough’ and laughed about it. It’s not really? Like I say I want to move somewhere more rural and away from a city but there’s factors involved.

I thought it was a wee bit rude and he done it intentionally. But DH said he’s not surprised at it.

my overall point is I don’t get why people are like this? The area he lives in isn’t miles better it’s just more secluded from things! And he’s a normal person not some millionaire CEO, he constantly goes on about how much DH earns and how DH has money. So it’s not a money or a weird class thing

Why do people seem so judgy? I hate being around him tbh. He makes me uncomfortable

I think the system of hierarchy is an inbuilt animal instinct.

If you have a chip on your shoulder/a strong sense of self, then the idea of a hierarchy is amplified.

The sibling relationship, even when it’s affectionate, is often a competitive one.

When we lived in London we were quite close to very deprived areas. To say so was a statement of fact. As it is a statement of fact to say the area near our local domestic waste station is deprived. It is.

Rough is another word for deprived is it not.

What's wrong with asking what your DC are up to?

I can't tell if your BIL is pressing a point or if you are being chippy.

It's hard to tell from your post what he's said wrong.
Do you have an inferiority complex ?

I mean it’s pretty obvious which areas of towns and cities are more deprived which is what he means by rough. You admit he lives in a nicer area and would prefer to live somewhere like that so by default you are admitting it’s not as nice where you live.

The only time I have lived somewhere rough which translates as deprived was when I was a student, it was pretty damm grim.