Dh hurt himself then shouted at me

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So sick of it all

Dh was upstairs fiddling around in a cupboard, when I heard ‘Shit!’ and some noise. He came downstairs and into the downstairs loo. He came out with loo roll in his hand, I asked what happened, he went off into the kitchen. He then shouted to me if we had any plasters (shouted it an awful way) then as I was looking for some, shouted ‘I could use some help you know!’
I shouted back ‘I’m looking for some! there are none left’ he continued ‘Bandage, anything?!’ I said I was looking and couldn’t find anything, cue him storming around. I ended up going upstairs, cba with it.

Was I in the wrong, did I do something wrong here?

Sorry, needed a comma after ‘Himself’

If he’s not normally like that then he was clearly just in pain/shocked/bleeding/frustrated. Surely you can understand that?

Context - ie, how badly injured was he?

I imagine he was panicking?

How badly hurt was he? Perhaps it was the shock, especially I'd he's not good with injuries.

Yes, sounds like he was panicking if he was bleeding a lot. Don't take it personally, it wasn't really about you.

He’s always like that

If he’s not normally like that it was probably the shock. I’ve done it myself.

Ah right it's the other times that aren't on really

You haven't event mentioned what happened to him? Do you know he's ok? He sounds quite badly cut. Both my wife and I get a bit grumpy and shouty when we're in bad pain and need help. It's a panic thing. We'd help he eachother then point out the other one was rude when the emergency has passed and they'd apologise. Or the hurt/ rude one would have apologised already

If he’s always like that then this was a pretty unhelpful example, because in this example it’s not nice for you but it’s not an unusual reaction when hurt,

perhaps it would be better to give another example

I mean, who knows?

If he was badly hurt, then I can imagine anyone getting a bit paniced if you can't find first aid supplies - which, by the sounds of it, you need to get a bit more orgainsed about. Get a decent first aid box, put it somewhere you can get at it easily and keep it stocked.

If it was just a minor cut or whatever, then the way both of you reacted is clearly indicative of a relationship with bigger issues.

Then you know fine well you weren’t in the wrong.

If he’s always shouty, angry and bad tempered, you’ve probably learned to keep your head down when you hear “shit” and a load of banging about. When he asked for help you tried to be helpful, but with someone wired this way you’re always going to be in the wrong, no matter what you do, as I’m sure you’re well aware.

If you can bear to live like this, then probably all you can do is give him time to stew and sulk and blame you for whatever he did to himself - or for your obvious lack of the right type of concern/assistance/magical powers to produce non-existent plasters out of your arsecrack - and eventually he’ll get over it. I personally couldn’t be fucking bothered with it.

How is he “always like that?” Always hurting himself and then yelling at you or something else? It’s just your example follows a specific situation, presumably not really typical of the day to day ( unless he is very accident prone!)

Naff example OP as we've all taken stuff like this out on other people then felt rotten about it after. Can you give some other examples instead?

On this example, a shitty tone is to be expected and nothing to do with you but the pain / panic.

However, the other times he is just a twat. The question is what are you going to do about it?

She means he uses her as an emotional punching bag whenever he is upset about anything.

I assume it was fairly mild if he just wanted a plaster? He sounds very dramatic. I've had my ankle snapped sideways and managed not to strop and shout at people. I can't stand tantruming adults, it's so tedious.