23 months and self feeding

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Hi
My little one 23months DD

1. answer to questions with yes but not with no . When she doesn’t want something she doesn’t answer
2. Answer to where’s and what’s and who’s questions with familiar faces
3. Give kisses and high five
4. Point , wave and clap
5. Ask for what she wants by pointing or using the word for it and asks for help
6. Follow simple instructions such as : “ bring mum the fork “ pick it up and give it mummy “ come here and stop and wait for mom “ when outside . Sit on the couch , bath time and food time she sits on her little chair , put bunny to bed or bring me the blanket, let’s change . But that’s it she is not improving on that front
7. Uses over 200 words 2 word phrases : like feed baby , daddy train , spin me , more crackers please , wash bunny , see you later daddy ,
8. She loves playing in front of the mirror and copying some songs and play hide and seek with us
9. She loves cuddles
10. She enjoys sitting and reading a book and point at what she sees
11. She can point to every body parts

She rarely self feeds and she doesn’t want to use cutlery . She has done it sporadically and when she does it she knows what they are for . She doesn’t like too much the touch of wet food but uses them to touch different textures . She eats a decent variety from homemade lasagna to beef Bourguignon , all the pasta sauces and few veggies but 9 out of 10 I give it to her . She doesn’t go to nursery or has any siblings for reference . I am a SATH mum so I cook everything from the pasta to the sauce but she only eats everything if I feed her . In terms of her fine motor skills , she can unscrew lid and put them back up , build towers with small blocks , scribbles in straight lines and make circles , does the zip of her clothes .

Food wise
Breakfast : milk , hazelnut or chocolate croissant, 1 hash brown and a piece of toast with butter
Snack : yogurt pouch
Nap milk
Lunch : a few bites of homemade banana and blueberries pancake plus 2 aubergine meatballs
Snack 2 slices of apples
Dinner : 1 sausage and 1 carrot stick
Dessert : homage hazelnut meringue ( she loves it )

Any tips or suggestions

Chill out.

Ditto on chill out. And she's nearly 2. Months are not a thing at this age.

Sounds like she’s doing great. Breakfast needs to be healthier though, pastries and hash browns every day isn’t great. If you give her porridge in a bowl or scrambled eggs you could get her to do one spoonful, then you give the next and so on, make it a game.

Wrong

Do you do any messy play? That can really help with the avoidance of touching food. Some ideas are:
Shaving foam in a tray with her plastic toys
Sand and water
Cooked cold spaghetti
Making mud pies in the garden
Planting seeds/helping with weeding, digging
Searching for worms and beetles
Baking with you, things that make a dough you need to handle like cookies, bread, scones
Oobleck (cornflour mixed with water)

In terms of self feeding, i wouldn't care if she uses utensils at 2 years old or not. Fingers were made before forks!
Do you sit down and eat together? I'd suggest eating at the table together and eating the exact same meal as her (has she got a booster seat for the dinner table?) Don't feed her, just chat and eat together. "ooh this orange is very juicy today, what do you think?"