So backstory is me and my mum have always had a tricky relationship
she veers from being supportive to very unsupportive and in the past has used intimidation and bullying tactics with me even threatening to say stuff that isn't true about me. Iv had to be tough with her at times to protect myself and my child.
2 years ago she started declining with memory and things even more so. If we fall out because I haven't see her she will send big long messages telling me weird stuff from about 10 years ago about how iv done this that, iv taken credit for things she done. Even down to a nickname I use for my daughter that I used in pregnancy she says I am using that as mine when she came
up with it. It's very strange. Now I'm not about to argue that but I do know it's untrue as it's a name linked to Chinese astrology which she certainly doesn't follow anything like that and I do.
one time she brought balloons for my child's party and I used them and she sent me a big long 3 page message weeks later saying how I'd messed it up ruined child's birthday with my shitty balloon display and that I should have asked her. Then starts going on and on about our interactions at child's party and how I'd done certain things to claom
her credit for things. When I tell you half these interactions I think are not true or certainly not how I perceived them.
I don't know what this is but I'm so tired and drained of being accused of things I haven't done . She is always saying I don't bother with her but it's hard work and completely in enjoyable. She was in hospital a whole again and suffered delirium but she was so nasty screaming at me and shouting accusations to the point the nurses were holding her down - I can't blame her for that but the things she was saying are things she does say anyway.
after the big long messages she seems to forget them