Husband is making me miserable

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Hi, I posed here yesterday about an issue and confronted DP about issue and its been horrible ever since. He's playing the victim big time. I'm 28 weeks pregnant with SPD and recently suffering from headaches and just low energy. This morning I woke up feeling unwell with a sore throat and fever. Hubby got up with DC who is 2 and at a difficult stage so I made the effort to cook us breakfast and clean up but told DP I needed to go back to bed as I'm not feeling too well. We need to do our weekly shop today and originally I said I'd come but then I said maybe because I wasn't feeling too good. The fact I had to keep reminding him was making things worse and I could feel myself start to panic because surely I don't have to spell it out. He turned on me said I was punishing him for being away yesterday and is he not allowed to have a hobby etc. Like this couldn't be further from the truth. He then goes on to say how he goes above and beyond then left to bring DC out and I decided to get dressed and do the shopping. I've been crying throughout though. My back is just not able and emotionally I'm drained. Im not one to slob around I really am just tired and sick.

I do cook and clean and work full time. He also does these things and maybe some more at times I've needed to rest but he definitely let's me know that he's doing extra. I'm really so low right now I'm sitting in my car not wanting to go home and have him play the victim.

Just and edit: I come here alot as I have no friends to turn to only his family because of where we live and I've just found it difficult to make friends.

So sorry you're having a rough time.
Sending hugs. Stay strong!

So sorry you’re feeling unwell and down.
Are you able to calm yourself a bit and just have 10 minutes quiet time/ breathing space? You could put an alarm on your phone and literally sit and either do nothing or meditate on a couple of sentences: “I am ok and I will be ok” or
I can do this until tomorrow.” If you think you may need to go to the GP, think about timings for the morning (not while you’re meditating!) and only put fresh/frozen away when you get home, sort your little one and go straight to bed - if you have a spare room, use that to get a good rest and tell OH you don’t want him to catch whatever it is.

Giving you a hug and hope you will be able to rest.

Practically, can you do an online shop or click and collect at least to make things easier?

So you’re growing a child, have physical pain from it and you’re unwell … and you’re doing it to punish him?

Is he a good husband and dad at any point, OP?

Sit quietly for a while. Go home, put shopping away and say you are going to bed because you feel unwell. If he says you are punishing him for whatever jolly he did yesterday, point out that it's his child too and that he is being bloody ridiculous, that you are pregnant and this takes a huge toll on a woman - then just go to bed. If he has any sense at all he will bring you up a cup of tea in a couple of hours and say he has made dinner. If he doesn't/hasn't get a takeaway. Honestly,some men.