Year 1 - another boy strangled my son

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My son is in year one and came home from school on Thursday telling me another boy strangled him. I asked him to show me what happened because I wasn’t even convinced he knew was strangling was but he did show me correctly. A teacher intervened and separated them. I asked my son if he pushed back or defended himself and he said no because that’s against the school rules. He is an amazing student and has never missed one day of school. He loves school, is popular in his class & is bright and loves to learn new things. After investigation it turns out the boy who strangled my son had told other kids he was going to strangle my son and he used the word die. This boy has been unkind to my son last year (stole his stones, physically blocked him from telling a teacher).

The school kept the boy separate from the class on Friday but they plan to integrate him back into the class on Monday. As Monday approaches I am more and more concerned about my son returning to the class. I was curious what other mums / dad’s views are on this? Am I over reacting? Is it unreasonable to request the school separate this boy from my son’s class? And at what age is police intervention needed? I know these boys are 5/6 years old but the action is horrifying. I cannot even think about what might have happened had a teacher not been there to intervene. Thank you

Did school not tell you formally about this?
I wouldn’t let school minimise this tbh

Id ask for a meeting first thing Monday after drop off and stay on the premises until someone talks to you. Ask for the safeguarding lead.

Use the word strangling and reiterate this is a particularly and worryingly violent act from such a young child. (There may be concerns around him watching violent TV or games etc but that’s for them to deal with not you)

Ask how they will ensure your son is safe at all times. Focus on your son and his experience and safety and not the other child iyswim.

Unbelievably this has happened twice to my son at two different schools - year 2 and then again in year 4.

Year 2 - the boy was pulled off him by staff and made to apologise and write my son a card, nothing more was done and it was never a problem again.

Year 4 - in an after school club my daughter saw and pulled the child of her brother, it was very distressing and badly handled. Nothing was done and this child remains very badly behaved my son just kept his distance and teachers are well aware to keep an eye on him, he's recently been moved out of class for other issues.

To be honest I would say, tell your son to keep away, ask teachers to keep a close eye especially at break and lunch and to move on. It's horrible but he isn't going to be expelled so you'll have to navigate it.

Yes. I can’t imagine my kids school not telling me about this . We get a call and an email each time my kid gets a scrape or needs a cool pack. And if there is bruising etc then the teacher makes a beeline for you at pick up time as well to clarify what happened and if the school needs to address anything.

If the child had been kept out of class for the remainder of the day, then it sounds like he had an internal exclusion. You should have been notified by the school, therefore I would be going in Monday and asking why you were not informed.

If they are a decent school, they will have a TA watching this child. I’m a 1-1 and regularly have to watch other children.

The police won’t do anything because the child is under 10 years old, could be different if they were year 6.

I would raise a safeguarding concern with school.